Ever feel like you’re falling behind? You’ve got a to-do list a mile long and you needed it all done yesterday. As a go-gettin’ Queen, you measure yourself against some pretty high standards. And you’ve got the lists to prove it! Is developing patience on that to-do list? If not, it should be.
Developing patience has been a lifelong lesson for me. Us go-gettin’ Queens are frickin’ hard on ourselves! I always was, ever since I was a kid. Now, even though my schedule is usually packed daily between clients, meetings, writing, and bettering my business, I still frequently feel like I’m falling behind. Until recently, in every business or career I’ve followed, my drive to move me forward has always made me feel like I’m two steps behind the Jones (or whomever is “making it” in the field I’m pursuing).
When a go-getter doesn’t feel on top of her game, we feel anxious, irritable, and just aren’t fun to be around. We don’t realize that our own impatience with ourselves permeates into every aspect of our lives. Our work, our relationships can all become stifled by our inability to chill. That’s why honoring, honing, and developing patience is key.
Spike, my grounding Earth Monkey (see the Chinese New Year) has helped to tame this Fire Bunny from burning out…like I used to. These past four years together have helped me hone and strengthen my patience. In fact he reminded me…
As a chronic over scheduler, I used to book totally unattainable and unrealistic deadlines which always created friction and impatience. When I finally realized that I can ease into the marathon of life in sprints of high focus paralleled with fulfilling recovery, I realized how to chill.
I still have to check myself from time to time, but when I do, I remind myself to do these three chill-tastic things. These simple tricks have saved me from the countless nights of insomnia I used to experience in my early 20s. And thank goodness! Because when I don’t feel reseated, my patience is tested even more. As is everybody’s .So, take a big deep breath because we’re about to dive into a healthy dose of patience.
Here are three tricks to help you improve your patience with yourself.
No.1 Developing Patience as a Muscle
The quickest way to solve any problem is to start with the physical. Cultivating patience is an emotional muscle, and the easiest way to build it into your body is to get physical.
Take it away Olivia Newton John!
First of all…are your working out? If you’re super stressed out and not exercising, you’re not giving your body the recovery outlet she needs to release the anxiety. Exercise is meditation in motion. It can also improve your sleep, which is often disrupted by stress. Plus it reduces your body’s stress hormones, such as adrenaline and cortisol, and it boosts your endorphins. Remember the immortal words of Elle Woods.
So if you don’t have a regular exercise practice built into your schedule, it’s time to add it in…strategically. Over the next few days, take note of the times you’re feeling most stressed. If in the morning you’re dreading going to work because of project overwhelm, morning’s may be the best time to get your movement on.
If during the afternoons you notice yourself feeling more frazzled, a lunchtime Pilates or yoga class may be just the ticket. Midday workout can help sustain your energy capacity and give you a mental and emotional break from being in work overload. If you discover that when you get home you’re relationships with your family, spouse, or roommate are feeling a bit strained, you may need to give yourself a break between work and home for some you-time at the gym. If you discover you’re feeling all three, try breaking up one long gym sash into three short sessions of 20-30 minute workouts. A morning run, a midday Pilates class, and 20 minutes of stretching or cardio can help soothe your impatient mind.
No.2 Breathe Deep
Stress physically causes our breathing to become shallow (So shallow, in fact, that we only use about one tenth of our lung capacity!) Shallow breathing immediately kicks in our primal instinct, throwing our body into fight-or-flight mode. The reduced oxygen to the blood and reduced circulation from shallow breathing can actually cause you to lose some function of your lung capacity and become more fatigued. because of the reduced oxygen to the blood and reduced circulation. Shallow breathing causes toxins to build up and can eventually lead to sleep disorders, heart palpitations, digestive issues, muscle cramps, and dizziness.
That’s why developing patience is key to your health!
Instead, when you’re feeling stressed, take five deep abdominal breaths. In through the nose. Out through the mouth. Focus on only your breathe for five deep breaths. This will reduce your level of arousal and short-circuit your natural fight-or-flight response.
No.3 Let the Universe do Her Thang
God, the Universe, the Source, our Creator, Mother Nature, whatever higher power that connects all of us energetically together let Him/Her do It’s thing! The Universe has got your back.
If you’re finding your impatience is keeping you up at night, check in with yourself. Ask yourself, did you do everything you could today to get to serve your purpose? Anything you didn’t do that needs to be pushed to tomorrow, write it down. Trust that tomorrow will take care of itself. Then, journal for five minutes to let your brain dump any remaining leftover stress from the day onto the page. After that, all you got to do is sleep.
Let the Universe go to work for your highest and best good. Our impatience traps us into a little box, where we believe lies our best outcomes. This narrow perspective totally limits us to our own paradigms. We only focus on what we believe will cause the best outcome. This totally limits the possibilities of the infinite…of the Divine.
Say a prayer. Give it to God and trust fall into infinite possibility.
Now you tell me, what practice do you have to put into to place to proactively practice patience? Tell me in the comments below.