Unlocking the Secrets of Manifestation: Kimberly Spencer's Journey to Her Dream Home

I'm Kimberly Spencer, your host at the Crown Yourself podcast, and today I'm thrilled to share a personal journey that's close to my heart. It's a story of dreams, determination, and the power of collective intention.

Just a year ago, my family and I were house hunting, imagining the possibilities each property held. Little did we know, our dream home was just around the corner. This journey wasn't without its challenges, but we held onto our vision, and I'm excited to share how it all unfolded.

🔑 Key Lessons:

• 💪 The Power of Collective Intention: My husband, my mom, and I all played a part in manifesting our dream home. It's a testament to the power of collective thought and intention. When we're clear and specific about what we want, the universe listens.
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• ⛔ The Importance of Boundaries: We faced a volatile broker and were even accused of being lazy. But we held our boundaries, refused to risk losing a significant amount of money for an arbitrary deadline, and trusted that everything would work out for the best.
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• 🧩 Detachment from Outcomes: Despite the challenges, we maintained a positive mindset and detached ourselves from the outcome. We were prepared to let go of the property if necessary and start looking for new houses immediately.

🏠 Our Dream Home Journey:

Our journey took us from San Antonio to Austin, exploring cute towns and experiencing the community vibe. We had a list of 15 things we wanted in a home, and we were determined not to settle for anything less.

After visiting several properties, one stood out with its expansive and ambitious vibe. We put in an offer, which was accepted, but not without a few hiccups along the way. We had to sell my childhood home in Burbank, California, and navigate a challenging broker. But in the end, our California home sold for the asking price, and we closed on our dream home in Texas.

I hope our story inspires you to believe in the power of collective intention, hold your boundaries, and trust in the process. Remember, be clear about what you want and never settle for anything less.

Tune into the Crown Yourself podcast to hear more about our journey and other inspiring stories.

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Transcript:

Kimberly Spencer (00:00:00) - Hello, my fellow sovereigns. Oh, my gosh. I am so excited for this episode of the Crown Yourself podcast because it has been a long time coming. This year we had a pretty epic transformation and as I'm recording this, I was just reflecting on that. A year ago, we were all looking up houses and looking at like, you know, houses and, you know, basically real estate porn is what I call it when you're just scanning through the houses and looking and imagining what you could do with them and oh, so sexy, just all the houses and the price tags and have so much fun. But little did I know that right at this time our dream house was coming on the market. Like right around this time last year as of recording this, which is in July, and we were here in like June, July and drove right past the area and didn't feel it, didn't see it, didn't kind of like kind of had feelers. So it's just this manifestation is probably like our biggest yet for sure, aside from, you know, businesses and children and all that.

Kimberly Spencer (00:01:15) - But oh and a Ted talk that that one was pretty big too. And Australia, that was pretty big. Pretty awesome too. But the house was really it was a collective manifestation. And so I hope as you listen to this episode, you hear the power of collective thought in a way as I wasn't just me, it was me, my husband, my mom, my two boys. I mean, Colton was one, so he didn't really have that much of an input. But Declan definitely had some input as far as what he wanted and the experience of coming together and it reminds me of the Bible because I was raised Christian and growing up, you learn that when two or more are gathered in prayer God is there. And I believe that it's in those moments when we are in a relationship that God's source universe is magnified in its presence through us, in us, between us all around us. It's it's a collective. And when you collectively set an intention in a relationship that makes magic happen and that is how we manifested our dream home.

Kimberly Spencer (00:02:35) - And I get into all the details and all the doubts. I mean, it was not an easy road by any means. There were definitely some hiccups and wrenches thrown in at the last minute. And, you know, there was a point that we literally like we all had plane tickets booked. We had pods booked. We had our house on the market. And I was ready to throw in the towel and say, nope, surrender it if they want to do this deal, I'm not doing that. And yet here we are. And so it speaks to it's a story that speaks to the power of non-attachment. It is a story that speaks to collective manifestation and the power of collective intention. And in truly being clear and specific with what it is that you want, enjoy the story. It's a true story. It's not based on a true story. It is a true story. And I am so excited to share it with you. Welcome to the Crown Yourself podcast, where together we build your empire and transform your subconscious stories about what's possible for your business, body, and life.

Kimberly Spencer (00:03:50) - I'm your host, Kimberly Spencer, founder of Crown Yourself and I'm a master mindset coach, bestselling author, and TEDx speaker, known to my clients as a game changer. Each week you get the conscious leadership strategies you need to help you reign with courage, clarity, and confidence so that you too can make the income and impact you deserve. Imagine this podcast as your royal invitation to step into your full potential and reign in your divine purpose. Your sovereignty starts here and your reign is now. Hello. Hello and welcome back to the Crown Yourself podcast. I am so excited to be here with you today. As always, shower yourself in some gratitude because we woke up today, I woke up feeling so inspired. I have been on this quest recently since coming back from LA and moving in all of the craziness of just the amount of transformation in one quarter, my priority has really been sleep. And because I have been prioritizing sleep, I have been waking up so inspired and rested and it's awesome. And I'm so like it's countering all of these beliefs in my head of how I used to work when I was younger of, you know, working the late nights and whatnot.

Kimberly Spencer (00:05:13) - And it's I'm, I'm so excited to be challenging these belief systems because the sleep in the inspiration of what's actually happening because I'm sleeping more is phenomenal and it feels so good because you know, I'm sleeping in my home like it's my home and I this podcast is a long time coming because I've had several of you ask, How did I manifest my dream house? Like my dream house? And I figured, why not just do a podcast on it? Because it really was a journey. And there were many parts of the journey that are all around the belief system of what I teach, what I talk about, and crown yourself how, you know, reprogramming the subconscious mind, the art of detachment, focusing on what you want, all of it. We pulled out literally collectively all the tools that we could in the book to be able to manifest this house. And so and I say we because it was me, my husband, and my mom, because when we moved back from Australia, we knew that she wasn't going to stay in California.

Kimberly Spencer (00:06:33) - We didn't want to stay in California. The tax breaks in Texas are phenomenal. So I'm very excited about that. And then the quality and cost of living, it's just so it just financially, it made such as it made so much more sense. And also for her, because she was moving into retirement, she still had her business back then, but she was moving into retirement. And your money can stretch a lot further in Texas. And so when we moved back, we moved back in January from Australia in January of 2022, right after my mom had lost her mother and her sister. This is in the same year that like the previous January prior, we lost my dad. And so there was a lot of trauma to be quite frank, like a lot of healing, a lot of grief, a lot of just letting go. And then not to mention it, you know, we moved back and we moved into my childhood home for the time because we knew it was just not it didn't make financial sense to rent a place, get our own place.

Kimberly Spencer (00:07:41) - My mom was living alone in a big house and I wanted to make sure she was supported. But because it was my childhood home, like on that street, we lost one of my childhood friends at the age of 28 to fentanyl that same year, and we lost my neighbor as well. And then our realtor died as well. And who was a close friend of my family, like he was my dad's best friend? And so it was it was this bananas scenario. And that's going to make sense. That's going to circle back to how the universe is so interconnected and how I personally believe, having gone through a lot of loss in the past three years, nobody's ever really lost as they've just passed on. And that energy is just transmuted. And I do feel so guided to where we are. And I know that I have a support network on the other side that is just rocking, pun intended, pun not intended when I initially said that. But if you know, my dad's name was Rock, so it makes sense.

Kimberly Spencer (00:08:55) - So when we got back, we chose to, to be there with my mom and kind of start clearing out the house, getting my dad's stuff out, you know, And then on top of it, when we moved back, we had my aunt stuff, my grandma's stuff, and we had to sell their house and whatnot. And so there was a lot of this like circulatory transition. And we had made the decision. We knew that we wanted to move to Texas. And my mom was like, I'm. Going to come like we're all going to go together. She didn't want to be alone again, and it's been so great to have her with the boys and supporting our boys and just being together she's such a champion for me and I really, really appreciate how much she loves my kids and how much she watches them. So we made the decision to move to Texas. But my mom, in her motherly way, she's like, I have to see it. I have to.

Kimberly Spencer (00:09:52) - And I was like, You know what? Honestly, that makes sense. Because one of the things I teach all of my clients is all the different types of thinkers. And so when you speak to all the different types of thinkers, you are able to vary your communication and that creates the law of requisite variety of the person with the most behavioral flexibility wins today. I didn't know this until later on in life. It would have served me so powerfully, having known this earlier on. But I'm much more of a why thinker. I'm the big picture. I need to be able to have an overarching vision. I hold that vision and I need to know the purpose of where, where, and where these acts and things are leading. My husband is much more he's a Y to a degree, but he's much more of the how he needs to know how to do it. He needs to know the tactile, step by step. Give him a step-by-step manual. He follows it through to completion.

Kimberly Spencer (00:10:50) - I'm the one who's like, Let's hold the vision and maybe skip some steps. And he's like, No, we're not skipping this, those steps. And my mom is a what-if thinker. And these thinkers are they are the ones who you want on your team. But they also may be the ones that I and I say this with all the love in the world, Mom, that may annoy you from time to time on your team because they're the ones who will find every single whole flaw loophole circular. They will come up with the questions, they will poke holes in what you are creating, and it does make you a stronger creator, but it can be annoying as fuck if you don't know that. Oh, that's just their thinking process. They're just so what-if thinkers and they're the ones who, if you ever teach at training, they're the ones with all the questions at the end who like have a question that comes out of the seemingly left field where you're like, Oh, I never even thought of that perspective.

Kimberly Spencer (00:11:46) - So she loves to kind of find those loopholes. That's just how she thinks. So in June of 2022, we went to Texas and flew into San Antonio. We figured we'd start with San Antonio and then we'd do Austin and we drove around San Antonio. We drove through all the cute little towns of like Bernie and New Braunfels, and we thought, we're thinking maybe like Fredericksburg, maybe Kerrville. And then all the all the people from Texas are like, you don't want to do Fredericksburg. Fredericksburg is so over, over, done. And we went to Kerrville. Didn't have the best feeling there. It was just like it didn't feel fully what we wanted it to feel like. We checked out Bernie. We visited another one of my friends and former Pilates clients. She was actually my women's health advisor during my first pregnancy. She was actually on this podcast, Abigail Reagan. We visited her on that trip and then we were looking around and there were many places, but and we saw a couple of houses, but there were certain things that just missed the mark, like some houses were not, you know, constructed in a way that seemed like logical for us all living together because we definitely wanted to have our open spaces but also have our private closed spaces.

Kimberly Spencer (00:13:16) - And so we just were looking around and then we flew back and my mom, Spike and I had a sit-down meeting and prior to this we had consulted with the boys, not so much Colton, like Colton definitely had his say, but, you know, he was one and not really talking. So he was like, Oh, it's so, so his opinion was valued. But it was minimal at best as far as what he could contribute to the conversation. But Declan certainly had his opinions of certain things that he wanted. He wanted to have a room that he could have bunk beds in. And so we wanted to make him give him that. And then my mom, Spike, and I all sat down and we got very, very, very clear on what it was we wanted. We wrote a list down of the I think it was maybe 15 things we wanted. And we said, okay, we want over two acres. So because a lot of the properties, we'd see a big house, but it would be on like postage stamp of land.

Kimberly Spencer (00:14:19) - So we wanted to make sure that it wasn't. In Adjoa. We wanted to have many specifics in regards to how our house was going to be, and we figured, you know, we're moving to Texas to be able to do as we like to create the house and home that we want. We don't want it to really be in a hole where they're like, No, you can't add on a pool or you can't add on a garage or something, you know? No, you can't Airbnb certain pieces of your property. So we wanted to have that freedom to be able to do as we like in our own home. And so we did that in June of this past year, and then we planned another trip to fly out to Austin that, you know, we didn't feel like we had so much luck around San Antonio. We like some of the smaller town fields, but we were also like, maybe we're more Austin. I mean, I'm from LA. And I said, Well, let's, let's try Austin, let's drive around Austin.

Kimberly Spencer (00:15:23) - So we rented two Airbnbs, one in Driftwood, which is this really cute small town, and we were in a modular home that couldn't have manifested it better, like it was directly it was in wine country, It was directly across from this like really cool Mezcal distillery that played live music and had a taco truck outside, like a legit, like food truck with like foodie options, like gourmet tacos. So that was delightful. And then we also plan to look at more like Austin proper. So like Bee Cave and those spaces. And we were looking around, so we rented two Airbnbs because Texas is so giant like you want to we wanted to get a lay of the land just like Los Angeles. Like if you live in Eagle Rock, it's very different than living in Venice. So we wanted to kind of get the vibe as far as where we wanted to be. So we came out in October and this was my brilliant plan to come out in October and do trick or treating because it was going to be Halloween.

Kimberly Spencer (00:16:24) - And I said, What better way to scope out real estate than do it in a fun way and do it trick or treating? And so I planned out. I went we went to all of these Halloween events all around Austin, Texas, because we wanted to have like, we want to see what were the little cities or where was the area in Austin that really felt like this community vibe. That's what we wanted. As one of the big pieces of moving to Texas is we wanted to have a deep connection with our community. We wanted to build that community structure. We wanted to make sure our kids are raised because it's just something that I love. I've loved living here so, so far because people just show up for each other, like genuinely, and sometimes in LA, having grown up there, sometimes the showing up is more out of expectation or obligation of like, okay, what are they going to ask from me? What are they going to ask me to do? What are they going to ask me to get for them? What you know, it's the connections and community are more leverage able like it's more from a what I've seen is a lot of times it can be from like, what can I get from this person? And I hate that.

Kimberly Spencer (00:17:38) - I absolutely hate that because that's using someone. And so I love living in a place that has a community where people just show up regardless. They really don't care about your background or who you are or even who you vote for, quite frankly, like they are. They show up for you. And it's it is that is something that I absolutely love. But we were looking for that. Like we literally were looking for that. And so we were going to all of these Halloween events. Also one of Spike's friends from high school was his fellow high school cheerleader and she became a realtor. We said, okay, well, you know, you're sending us some properties, like you just be our realtor. And she's like, Let me show you around, let me show you some properties. And so we started looking. We started actually looking for properties because that was my mom and her What if thinking brain. She was like, I need to go inside the actual properties and like, let's just I thought we were just like, Let's casually browse.

Kimberly Spencer (00:18:41) - And she's like, No, we're going to go inside the property. So I was like, Oh, all right, freight train. Like, we're going to we're moving on this. We're we're doing this. She was she was fully gung ho. And so we looked at some properties and saw some interesting ones. We saw this one that literally went into the master bedroom and we looked up and it looked like there was a balcony around it. And then we went upstairs and looked down on it. And it literally there was a viewing platform of the bed of the master bedroom, good on mates, like for creating the house. And apparently, the house had been designed by the owners and they designed it exactly the way they wanted it and had a. A studio, like a dance studio. So that was part of something that I wanted. I wanted it to be able to have a gym, a yoga dance studio, like a big gym, physical space. But my goodness, yeah, we saw that bed and that balustrade.

Kimberly Spencer (00:19:36) - And I was like, Oh yeah, for some that might be like their thing and rock on if that is yours. For us, we were like, We don't really need a viewing platform of our sexual endeavors, so we skipped on that one. There were some other ones that we saw and we were we were getting a vibe for like, okay, this one's nice. We saw like probably about nine houses in total. But it wasn't until right before Halloween because on Halloween we were moving Airbnbs to be farther away from the hill country, to be more up in like Austin proper and cave area. And so there was this moment, just a moment where I was up late and kind of like sometimes I'm still working on what my ideal sleep schedule is because I do love waking up early in the morning and exercising. This is a bit of a tangent, but I will. It will lead somewhere, I promise. But there's something about the nighttime when it's quiet and that I just kind of get these hits of inspiration.

Kimberly Spencer (00:20:48) - And it's been that way ever since I was a kid. And so I was just lying in bed. It was probably about midnight and my gut was like, Check your phone. And I was like, okay. And I started looking. And then my gut also was like, look, look down, look down. Like not look down like, look down, like move the map down. And I looked and I was looking inside our filter criteria on Trulia, Realtor.com, or something like that. And I looked and I saw this house and I was like. Oh, and then I knew we had a couple of others that were around or near there. So I was like and then I saw this other house and I was like, Oh. Which literally looks like the house that Spike and I had put on our vision board. Very Spanish style. And then then I saw this other house that fit our criteria. And I was like, Oh, but it was this one that I do remember the moment when I saw it, and it was this moment of like.

Kimberly Spencer (00:21:52) - Oh, that's a possibility. And it honestly was the same gut feeling that I had when I met my husband. And honestly, here's the crazy part. So when I met my husband, I was in a then-on-off kind of relationship with a man I'd been dating for about 4 or 5, or six months, and I ended it with him. I went on my first date with my husband and then I wasn't planning on committing to anything. So there were a couple of other gentlemen at the time who were interested. And so I was dating three men at the same time, and I was having the time of my life because I knew that one of them was it, and I thought it was going to be possibly someone else. I thought I was I thought it was going to be this writer that we had just always had this connection, but we'd always been in relationships. This was the first time that he and I were not in a relationship. And so we were like, okay, well, like this.

Kimberly Spencer (00:22:59) - And so then Spike was totally open. In fact, I was very honest with him. After our second date, I said, Oh, I have a date in the morning, I have a hiking date. And he's like, okay, rock on. Like, so there was and it was a short period. It wasn't a long time. It was. But I remember my mom asking me around that time, she said, she said, What? What's going on with you? Like, I don't know who you're dating anymore. I said, There are three men. And I said They're one of them. Is it? And I said, my I, I know one of them is the one. And I said I'm just willing to discover who that is. And so one of them weeded himself out pretty fast. The other one who I thought was going to be it too, just didn't actually fit like it was so interesting. But Spike, he was persistent. He was consistent, and the same was true.

Kimberly Spencer (00:23:54) - I had the same gut feeling the same. And I turned to my mom and I said the same damn thing. I said we were going to go see three houses that day and it was the night before. And my mom goes, What do you think, Kim? And I said, One of them is going to be the one. I just don't know which one it is. And the one that I thought was going to be the one turned out to not really be, though it was the Spanish style and that was the one that Spike's on. He was like, Oh my gosh, yes, this one looks like it's going to be the one. But when we saw it, it didn't have the right acreage. It did have over five acres, but only one acre was usable because the rest was down a hill slope that was totally like fire danger. And coming from LA, I was like, nope, not available for that. So even though the house was gorgeous and really fit that Spanish style that we love, I was like, No, that's that's unfortunately it's not it.

Kimberly Spencer (00:24:51) - And it felt like just the same way, like with that one gentleman that I was dating that I was like, Oh, it looked like so good. And I thought like, Oh my gosh, this seems like it would be exactly what it is. And nope, here's the crazy part. It happened in the same order. So first that day when we went to the house showings, we first went to the house that is now ours and we saw it and I was like, my heart just was like, Oh, hot damn. And it had this feeling of expansiveness and it had this feeling of ambition and purpose. And, you know, the owners, the former owners were, were entrepreneurs and like, it just had this, like, just exciting feeling. And then as I'm walking past it, I see this stone that's on the outside. And it said that those that we have lost are never gone. Yeah, and I saw that and I just knew because it was written on a fucking rock lake.

Kimberly Spencer (00:26:01) - What more of a sign? I asked for My dad's name was right. It was just. It was so fortuitous and I just felt like this. Like, oh, my gosh, this. Wow, this is it. And then I said, Well, okay, we still have two other houses to look at. And we looked at that one Spanish tile. And then I was like, Oh, that actually wasn't exactly what I thought it was going to be. And then we saw this, the third one, which was very much like that third gentleman that I was dating back ten years ago, where I was just like, we walked in, there was like a funky vibe. There was just like, No, no, this seems a little no, it was just there were certain it was an energy. It was a funky feeling. And we said, okay, all right. That's, that's yeah, that's. No, no, not it. It was just it was just a funky vibe.

Kimberly Spencer (00:26:51) - And so we went back. We all discussed it and we said, okay, like, what do you think? And it was very clear as far as which one it was. And so we put an offer in that night and I wrote a letter to the owners and I shared with them about our experience, about what was happening, about our experience over the past couple of years, about losing my dad, about when I went up into one of the bedrooms, the hat like their son or maybe their the husband wore the cowboy hats and my dad used to wear and I saw it hanging on the wall and I was like, oh, okay. Another like very clear. And now, of course, this is Texas. So like, yes, there's probably more than one room that wears hats. But this was it was so clear and. It just was such a gut instinct sign that I said, okay, like here are all the signs as to why I think this is our home and why you should sell to us.

Kimberly Spencer (00:27:54) - And I just wrote the letter and fast-forwarded it. They accepted our offer and it was a cash contingent offer. So we also had to sell my childhood home in Burbank because one of the big things that we wanted to have was equity in our home. We wanted to own it outright. We didn't want to go through a bank. We didn't want to go through a loan. We didn't want to go through all that shenanigans and that process, especially as entrepreneurs like especially as entrepreneurs like all three of us are entrepreneurs, including my mother. So that I was like, No, that's that's not going to happen. So they accepted the offer. Cash contingent. Great. We go look at the house one more time and I see the owner and she says, It was your letter that sealed the deal. She said, I don't know if you know, but my husband's father is currently on a ventilator as well. At. I said, Oh, I'm so sorry. And we just connected through that.

Kimberly Spencer (00:29:04) - Because during the course of the process, he lost his father as well. And I just my heart went out to them because I know such a big life transition moving, being, you know, being in a new house. ET cetera. And so they were moving and we just set the intention. And then we went back to California. We originally were just going to list the house ourselves because Spike used to do real estate. But because it's California and California, buyers are picky. We decided to go with a real open option to go with a realtor. So our realtor in Texas, Spike's childhood cheerleader friend, was like, oh, I know this great realtor. She's out of California. And she gave us the realtor and we're like, Oh my God, we know her. And I thought, you know, it's not that small town, but she was the sister of the realtor who died, who was my dad's best friend. So I'm sitting there like, okay, this is another God moment.

Kimberly Spencer (00:30:16) - This is another universe saying, okay, go with this. And the beautiful piece was then we went to work because we had so much clutter to clear out of that childhood home, so much clutter, so much furniture that we saw that was like, no, we're not. We're not taking this. We went to town for two and a half weeks, 19 days. We flipped that property to be able to get it to be on the market. And then, of course, we listen, right? After Black Friday, like December 1st or something like was, we were able to list it, but we listed it right during the holiday season. And so we were getting people coming to our open houses. My realtor in California, was like, I have never seen anyone flip a property that fast, especially if she goes seeing the state that it was in, not that it was in a bad state, it was just in a cluttered state. There was a lot of junk, a lot of stuff.

Kimberly Spencer (00:31:20) - We probably had at least 12 giant trash pickups of just junk, because if you think about it energetically, like. My childhood home had a lot of a lot of junk. There was a lot of metaphorical junk. My dad, we had that mantle, that damn mantle that I talked about in the Ted talk to get rid of that never was used that we had to. You know his roll-top desk and things that he loved and it was said that he loved them but bought them and didn't use them. And so he would do that when he was high. And so we had a lot of stuff to get rid of. But we flipped that property in 19 days and our realtor was like, I have never seen any team move that fast. And I just was like, all in. I had painters flowing in, I had movers, I had pods set up, and I had everything planned out so that I knew that as soon as we landed in California, it was like execution time.

Kimberly Spencer (00:32:23) - And so that was what happened. And so but we listed it and I had the intention to list it. I thought it was going to take a week. Of course, I was overly ambitious in my goal. That's one thing that I'm working on consistently. But I was like, okay, it's the Christmas holidays. And so we had two weeks of showings until then, the Christmas holidays, and nothing. And so we filed for an extension. The owners of the house in Texas accepted. And we said, you know, this is where we're working on this. A house can move fast in California, especially listed at the price that it was. It was a competitive price. But at the same time, like the owners of the house in Texas, they'd moved out. They thought like, oh, this was going to be a done deal. Unfortunately, their realtor, from at least our perspective, hadn't prepared them to say that cash contingent offers can take a little longer because the house actually does have to sell, and because of that and then because of the challenges that they were facing personally, there was a communication breakdown and where they were surprised at certain aspects of needing an extension.

Kimberly Spencer (00:33:38) - And there was a perception that we weren't doing our part. And I was working all my magic of perception projection in that space. As soon as things started to get funky with our relationship with the owners I wanted to have a good relationship because we were buying the property. Yeah, but we also were buying their donkeys and their goats and their chickens and we were making sure that like, so we also needed help with some of that information. So we wanted to make sure we were like it was our intention to have it be on good terms. And then suddenly within I think it was, it was December. Suddenly the broker gets in their broker and I get this gut feeling where I'm like, Oh no. And my gut, I trust it. And I said, I don't know what it is, but the fact that this broker is getting involved, I don't feel comfortable. Like not that I wasn't going to proceed, but I was like, there is something about this that is thrown like it felt like a cog in a wrench or, you know, that metaphor.

Kimberly Spencer (00:34:47) - The metaphor is not fully coming through for me, but I just had a gut feeling as soon as I saw the text message that the broker was coming into the conversation. That's when we had to really start doing our inner work because we were navigating dealing with a broker who was volatile, insulting to our character, and just plain route like literally was trying to like wheel and deal when I was like, there's no wheeling and dealing. Like either we get the house or we don't. And to the point and this was this was a couple of weeks and to the point that on Christmas we were messaging back like messaging with our realtor like that. There were contracts and oh, people weren't signing and they weren't signing we had to do one more extension and we said, Look, it's the Christmas holidays. Like nothing's moving, like, give us a break. We have worked our asses off and we were accused of being lazy and not doing the work and stringing their client along. And I was like, There's just nothing in my being.

Kimberly Spencer (00:36:04) - But it was this whole nasty shadow perception that suddenly Spike myself and my mom were all working through. And so we got to the point where we said, Look, we're going to do a buyer's early lease and move in earlier and then we'll pay you to live there until we so that that way the sellers were going to get a nice hefty deposit of like non-refundable and the and then we would move in. And then on top of that, we would pay a monthly lease until our property in California sold and the broker decided to play hardball and wanted to set a deadline on how long that money non-refundable. And it was like it was a good chunk of money. It was a good six figures of money that we were saying was going to be non-refundable, that we were willing to put up to say like, this is the pure good faith of we are working our asses off to get our house sold and to get this done. And the broker wanted to put a deadline on that and we had a sit-down and we said, No, no, we're not going to hand over that amount of money with a deadline that puts the like a Damocles, the sword, a sword of Damocles over us.

Kimberly Spencer (00:37:29) - Not going to happen. And I remember being in the space where I was like, if they commit to saying that this is like that, that's the only way that they're going to sign the extension, then fine. We walk away. We let go of the property, we let it go. And I said, because I also informed the realtor, like in Texas, for a property of the size that we were buying, it takes about 171 days. This is where knowing your numbers comes into play, Like always know your numbers. And I looked at the time, the time, the opportunity cost. So I thought of this from a sales perceptive perspective and I said the time in which it takes for a house in California of what we were selling to sell takes about 45 days max. The time for a house in Texas of the same value to sell takes about 171 days. So I understand the frustration on behalf of the sellers. They had had this house listed. And here's a beautiful thing. Here's the most magical thing.

Kimberly Spencer (00:38:24) - They listed the house in July, right after we had created our list of everything that we wanted. They listed the house in July and it had everything that we wanted, literally ticked off every single one of the boxes except for one that was the easiest remodel. That is a gas stove in the kitchen. Anyways, so we were at the space where we said we were not willing to lose to have even the risk of losing upwards of six figures on an arbitrary deadline when we know the House in California is going to sell like we know it's going to sell, it just needs to get through Christmas. Like just bear with us or we can just let it go. And we already had our plane tickets booked for January. We already had accommodations booked for an Airbnb to be able to stay at the transitory time. I had pods booked for delivering our furniture. Everything was set and ready and it came down to us like signing this contract that didn't align with our boundaries. And I was like, No, we're not playing hardball with this.

Kimberly Spencer (00:39:33) - Like, and the question came up, obviously, Well, if that happens, like, do we still fly to Texas in January? I said, Absolutely, we will fly to Texas and we'll start looking for new houses immediately. I got to the point where I said I completely detached from this house. I said, If it is meant to be, it is this or something better. But I said that there is no way that we are doing that. Amount of money at risk for an arbitrary deadline that's a few weeks out, like not happening. And we all agreed and held our boundaries. And it turns out that the broker had had his clients sign two contracts both at the same time, one that had the deadline and then one that didn't. And he just wanted to play hardball. And that was where I looked at that and I just laughed and I said, Oh, that is the devil archetype in play. And I say, and I don't I'm not calling him the devil. I do not think that I am saying the devil archetype is the one that flips things on its head.

Kimberly Spencer (00:40:40) - It turns things upside down. It has and if you are able to laugh at it and see it for what it is and be like, that's so silly. That's ridiculous. And we're not doing that. Like if you're able to laugh at it, that's what diminishes its power. So. I saw that. And immediately I was like, Oh, silly. And I said, okay, great. So we were able to put down the non-refundable deposit and move in. Still, we're waiting for the house to sell. And I said, We just need to get to Texas. And here's where the magic of pure manifestation comes into play. We get on the plane on January 13th. That is the day my dad died, two years prior. We landed at our layover and I turned back on my phone I got a text from our California realtor who said, We just got an offer for the asking price for the California home. And I was like. It's just me. I knew it and I said, great.

Kimberly Spencer (00:41:49) - And I told my mom we accepted and it was from there. Just trusting that all would be well and wonderful. And we kept going in pure faith and we moved into the house in mid-January. And as we were moving in, we found out that the house inspection came in lower. And I looked at it and I had a gut feeling that this was going to happen. And I always trust it. And I said, okay, what is it we need to learn from this? What is it like? I had tried to use all my use, all my powers of my unconscious mind and of the collective consciousness to shift that. But it is what it is. And so I, I was like, okay, well, what do we need to learn from this? Okay, we need to learn to surrender and let go. And that's totally fine. We can cover the difference. And so we agreed on the reduced price in California and closed a month later on our dream home.

Kimberly Spencer (00:43:02) - And I'm still pinching myself because. It was just this radical testimony to everything we practice and that I teach everything that I tell my clients to do everything that like everything that I work on within myself. It was we had to pull out all our tools to Uplevel because when you're moving to any space, it requires you to grow into that space. So the biggest takeaway for me was not only, yes, I fucking can do it and so can you. It was practicing that art of detaching from the outcome of trusting that if it's not it's this or something better, period. Okay, keep moving. Keep going. And it also showed me a working mode that used to be, I would say put not put down, but frowned upon. And I call it Kimberly Freight Train working mode. We're working on the official title, but it's where I just move like a freight train toward one specific goal and then that shit gets done really fucking fast and it's because I back it with full belief and full faith and full knowing and full trust and a solid plan as well, moving toward that goal.

Kimberly Spencer (00:44:35) - And I said, if I applied this to my businesses, what then could we accomplish in this next year? This is how we came up with the first 15 initiatives for both of our companies to release and to free because we're in the business of transforming people's stories into greater possibilities. So it is my intention and contention that this story inspires you to hold your own boundaries to detach from the outcome, to hold what it is that you want with pure faith to be crystal motherfucking clear as far as what you want and it choose to not settle for anything less than it, and that if it's not this, then it's something better because something better is always around the corner waiting for you. If this is not what is meant to be. But fortunately, sometimes this is what's meant to be and you get to create a new reality and a new paradigm through who is birthed, through the experiences that challenge you to be your most courageous, confident self. As always, my fellow sovereigns, if you love this episode, if it was a value to you, let me know.

Kimberly Spencer (00:45:59) - I love hearing from you in my stories and also sharing them with a friend. Maybe you have a friend who's going through their own homebuyer process, which can definitely be a saga and filled with lots of emotions. So emotional regulation was, by the way, so helpful. The fact that I had exercise and was training for a marathon was a game changer, just being able to regulate my emotional and mental well-being. But I hope that this episode served you and I hope that it serves someone else who's in the process of buying their dream home so that you don't settle. You choose what you want and you go after it like a motherfucking beast or like the sovereign that you are. As always, on your throne, mind your business because your reign is now. Thank you so much for tuning in today. If what you heard resonated with you. Be sure to subscribe and start creating a bigger impact now by sharing this with a friend. Just by doing that one simple act of kindness, you are creating a royal ripple to support more people in their sovereignty.

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