How to Define Your Business Core Values and Your Boundaries (at the same time!)

Uncategorized Apr 06, 2021

It is what it is. So cliche, right? But, as I always say, cliches are cliches because they are common truth.

But, here’s the thing…

YOU CANNOT CHANGE OR MOVE OR GAIN MOMENTUM WITHOUT AWARENESS OF WHAT IS.

So many people live in the mythical land of shoulda-coulda-woulda.

And it’s a lovely place if you like stewing in your own guilt, shame, apathy, and anger.

But, eh, not so much for me. (Even though, I’m human and, of course, visit from time to time.)

Acknowledging what IS is powerful.

Acknowledging what happened is transformative.

AND ACKNOWLEDGING THAT WHAT HAPPENED HAPPENED AND WHAT IS IS, IS THE FOUNDATION FOR TRANSFORMATION.

Here’s the thing….

No matter what curveballs or horrific life experiences you have survived...they happened.

It is what is.

You may not like it.

It may have been completely wrong, immoral, heinous, and unjustified what happened.

BUT WHAT IS IS.

It happened.

Now, here’s where the transformation happens and can continue to happen, should you choose to let what is be what was and choose the new “IS” you would like to live into.

How do you respond to what happened?

I was working with a client, a super successful woman in her industry, who was royally screwed over by her partner...like, big time.

As we dove in, these problems weren’t just in the main experience that caused the blow-up. (HINT: they usually never are and are typically ALWAYS much deeper.) We examined the relationships and the situation from all angles, to where my client saw that this problem was just the tip of the iceberg. The REAL problem was that her partner was in no way in alignment with her values or her company’s values.

No.1 - What are your Values?

You’ll know your business’s core values when you get upset. Your anger, sadness, and rage at a situation show you not only that you care, but also that a VALUE that you hold deeply is not congruent or is being ignored, or worse, disrespected in the situation at hand.

No.2 - What Boundaries Do You Need to Start Having Now?

Boundaries are the policies and procedures that you put in place to prevent that thing from ever happening again. Boundaries are the castle walls you put up that allow people to enter into your kingdom, and they are the rules that when some miscreants aren’t behaving themselves appropriately (according to your boundaries) get them kicked TF out.

RARELY DO WE KNOW OUR BOUNDARIES IN ADVANCE. CONFLICT IS A GIFT IN SHOWING YOU WHERE THOSE BOUNDARIES ARE.

No.3 - What is the NEXT RIGHT Action Step?

In fact, list a few. Typically the first right action step you will think of is one that is convenient, easy, or familiar. This is why having a coach or a mastermind or a mentor to help talk you through can be so powerful, for together, two heads are better than one. And “when two or more are gathered” the spirit of creativity is present. And that’s where REAL solutions can be found.

SO DON’T JUST LIST ONE. WRITE OUT AT LEAST FIVE DIFFERENT ACTION STEPS SO YOU CAN LET WHAT IS BE WHAT WAS, AND SO THAT IT NEVER WILL BE WHAT IS AGAIN.

If this helped you, please share it with a friend who is in need of holding stronger to her boundaries (or creating them entirely.)

Remember, your reign is now.

P.S. In need of getting some guidance and generating some RIGHT next action steps forward? NOTHING has moved me forward faster in my life and business than coaching. Things that you may believe will take you a year, may only take you 3 months...that’s the power of coaching. If this resonated with your soul, let’s accelerate together.
Book a 1:1 High-Performance Acceleration consult call with me and I cannot wait to translate what IS into what CAN BE possible for your business.