The Opportunity Cost of Doubting Yourself
I remember back before Decky was born when my business was making pittance - and by that I mean, absolutely nada - that I was living in the lap of this one luxury.
No, it was not our one-bedroom apartment in Koreatown.
Nor was it the fancy designer handbags and shoes I’d vigilantly saved up to buy year after year.
This was a time when I had very little responsibility aside from paying some credit card bills and for my second-hand fancy Audi that I thought made me a badass. To be fair, I loved and manifested my car - Cecilia - and manifested a heck of a deal for a Q5, but, to be honest, it was just another “instagrammable” showing of “success” rather than fully embodying it.
I was in this place in life, where I didn’t really HAVE to grow.
I didn’t really HAVE to be courageous.
I didn’t even HAVE to get scrappy with my thinking, or resources because I always had JUST ENOUGH coming in to cover my expenses...kinda.
I had just enough credit cards to wrack up debt on “business expenses” that, of course, would pay off.
And I had just enough money to pay the minimum on all of them.
...All which allowed me to...
I could dabble around with building a business.
I could “play badass business owner” and go to meetings (that went nowhere) just to feel busy.
I could post occasionally, share sometimes, and yet, be “working hard'' and “busy, busy, busy” on my business all the time.
I didn’t demand I lean into purpose, or courage, or challenge myself to rise into becoming confident.
I didn’t demand more of my life.
And thus, life didn’t demand more of me.
Nor did it reward me with more.
Life grows when you choose to grow it. Wealth grows when you choose to grow it.
IT’S A DAILY DECISION TO RISE UP AND MEET IT.
Doubt is a luxury.
You get to relax into your excuses.
You get to settle into that comfy space of mediocrity that feels RIGHT in the middle, safe and sound and completely soul-sucking.
You get to relegate yourself into the mundane hum of “oh, but you tried.”
You get to lean black and coast on all the “but I don’t know HOW” reasons.
And, sure, it’s fine, for a while.
But it will cost you.
Everything has an opportunity cost.
Leaning into the comfortable norm of doubting yourself will cost you a DELAY on your dreams.
Doubt will cost you your peace.
Fear will cost you your momentum.
COMFORT WILL COST YOU YOUR ABILITY TO LEARN AND GROW FROM EXPERIENCE.
And look, courage costs as well.
Courage will cost you your comfort.
Boldly putting yourself out there may cost you your Imposter Syndrome.
Fearlessly trying new things, in your business, taking risks will cost you your skepticism.
Everything is an EXCHANGE of energy, after all.
It’s up to you to DECIDE what cost you are willing to pay.
When I found out I was pregnant, I became unavailable to front the luxury of doubt and all the comforts that it provided.
Because I knew that my own self-doubt was costing me from having a positive mindset, belief in myself, confidence, and the ability to demonstrate courage to my son.
I knew that I was about to be THE example to my son of what is possible.
I knew that my life now had a spotlight on it - not from a place of judgment, but as a role model, a teacher, a mentor, a mother - and that EVERYTHING I did or did not do from that point out would be either an example or a warning of how life gets to be.
I did NOT want to raise my kids as a warning sign for what NOT to be or do and leave them till their 30s to have to figure out this whole confidence, courage, and self-belief thing.
No, no.
I wanted my son to see women as brave, courageous, standing in their power.
I want him to choose a partner who amplifies him, who he admires, and RESPECTS for how she shows up in the world.
I wanted to have admiration and respect for women for what we are capable of.
Couldn’t do that with the luxury of doubt looming over my life.
So I gave up the luxury of the doubt for the luxury of luxury - the joys of making more money, the contribution that comes from being able to receive more, the luxury of impacting more lives because I am making more.
The choice is yours as to what you want to SPEND your life luxuriating in:
The comfort of your doubts.
Or…
The comforts that come with living your dream life.
Remember your reign is now.
P.S. Speaking of overcoming doubts, I know that making sales in your business can be a HUGE space of fear. If you’ve ever been sold to - badly - it can feel gross, especially in network marketing.
I mean we’ve all received those awkward DM’s where there is no connection, no relationship, and no value, just some person hawkin’ their shit that we don’t know if we even need or want, but the way they do it is just such a turn-off.
And while I always admire someone’s courage in putting their offers out there - there is a RIGHT way and WRONG way.
There is a way of selling that can make you (and your prospects) feel amazing, nurtured, and cared for through the process…
And then, there’s the way to completely turn them off, delete your number, and never want to speak to you again because they’re so scared that you’re going to try to “sell” them.
I’m speaking in the “Find the Right People Summit for Your Business” on how to Transform Your Sales Process from Sleazy to Spiritual.
And, as an added bonus, I was super honored to find out that not only am I speaking at it but one of my mentors, Cheri Tree, who founded the B.A.N.K. methodology that I use every day in my business (both for sales and hiring my Queen team), is also speaking at it!!! Like, whaaaat!
Join me for this FREE summit here: http://bit.ly/find-the-right-people-for-your-biz
Whether you’re in network marketing, direct sales, or just building your own business, lead generation and having the RIGHT tools, processes, and systems to close are crucial to your success.
And you can do it in a way that FEELS GOOD! Aligned, even, and make it spiritual AF. Can’t wait to show you how!
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Tuesday, May 18. Transform Your Sales Process from Sleazy to Spiritual | Kimberly Spencer
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