Kimberly Spencer (00:00:00) - The Law of Cause and Effect is probably one of my most favorite laws in the multiple laws of the universe. However, this breakthrough with the Law of Cause and Effect has radically changed my mindset. How I operate, and every way I show up in every area of my life and business right now. So stay tuned. We're gonna dive in deep. Welcome to the Crown Yourself podcast, where together we build your empire and transform your subconscious stories about what's possible for your business, body, and life. I'm your host, Kimberly Spencer, founder of Crown Yourself. Com. And I'm a master mindset coach, bestselling author, TEDx speaker, known to my clients as a game changer. Each week you get the conscious leadership strategies you need to help you reign with courage, clarity, and confidence so that you too can make the income and impact you deserve. Imagine this podcast as your royal invitation to step into your full potential and reign in your divine purpose. Your sovereignty starts here and your reign is now. Hello and welcome back to the Crown Yourself podcast.
Kimberly Spencer (00:01:12) - I am your host, Kimberly Spencer, Master Mindset coach and founder of CrownYourself.Com and I am so honored to be here with you today with like such a big breakthrough. So if you've been listening to this podcast for a hot minute, y'all know, like the law of cause and effect of speaking about taking ownership like it's our core value when it comes to Crown yourself. Like that's literally the core value of our business is really radical, 100% ownership. And the law of cause and effect is deeply intertwined with that. Because to take ownership means you have to be at cause for your life. You have to consider yourself instead of on the effects side of the equation, which is more the victim mindset, sort of equation. And like I always say, there is a massive difference between having a victim mindset and being a victim of an experience. Very different. I've I've dove into that in multiple different episodes. So I will link to a few, in the show notes so that you can reference back if you're like, ooh, I don't like the term victim or like if you feel triggered in any way, just cool your jets.
Kimberly Spencer (00:02:17) - So there is the effects side of the equation, which is typically the victim mindset. You're stuck in the drama triangle where you are on the effects side, you're reacting, you're in reaction mode. It's very easy on the effects side to be in fight, flight, freeze. It's very easy on the effects side to be saying things like, I can't or you don't understand my circumstances, you don't understand how I grew up and da da da da da. There are lots of reasons and excuses and self-limiting beliefs on the effects side. On the cause side. There is creation, there is ownership. And yes, ownership, like I've said many different times, is not the sexiest conversation to have, especially when you, like, just ate it. Like when you failed, when you messed up when you fucked up when you when things didn't go your way and you're like, oh, I am owning my results. I am owning that. I am the cause. I am the creator now ownership.
Kimberly Spencer (00:03:16) - And I've said this before, it does not connote being the villain. So in the drama triangle, there is also the villain side of the equation where instead of nothing being your fault, which is very much the effect, it's everything is my fault, including unforeseen circumstances, other people's behavior, and all the things outside of our control that is outside of the realm of our control. So just cause you put yourself at cause and take ownership of your results, doesn't mean that everything is going to go exactly as you planned. Because welcome to life. But putting yourself at cause does allow you to see through the lens of ownership where you're able to see, oh my gosh, that didn't go okay according to what I thought was going to happen. So what do I need to learn from this? What is the data, the feedback of this world giving me? What do I need to learn from this? What do I need to take from this? How do I need to grow from this? What do you want or did you get the lesson you need? And so if you get what you want, you're like, oh, conscious creator snaps.
Kimberly Spencer (00:04:17) - It's all manifestation all day long. And that feels great. And there's also welcome to life that there's causality where things didn't go exactly as you plan, but you still take ownership of the results that you got, and you put yourself in the driver's seat for how can I make the changes that need to be made? So, for example. When we launched our second business, Communication Queens, it was not out of intention to launch a second business right after having a second child. No no no no no. It came from failure. It came from things not going my way. I had two failed launches of a course and I just found people. When I pulled my audience, I said, I'm going to put myself a cause. Like what happened? People in my community, you all know, like I deliver, I will show up. I will the content, the formula, the systems, the strategy, like it will be there. And when we pulled our audience and it was like, because again, putting yourself a cause, we said, okay, well that didn't work.
Kimberly Spencer (00:05:15) - So why? And who better to ask than the people who didn't buy? So we asked and they said, well, we don't really want to learn how to do it. Like we don't want to learn how to do it, we want it done, but we don't want to learn how to do it. And I was like, okay, we could do it for you. So that is what we created the agency from. It was from the fact that the data, was because we took ownership of the results of a failed launch after a success, like two successful launches. So we had two successful launches and we had two failed launches. And it was after the two failures that I was like, okay, why aren't people buying this in our community? And it was because they just wanted a done-for-you service. So we created one and thus birthed the second business. Ta-da! That's the power of being it. What blew my mind recently, though, with the cause and effect equation, is that there is a belief, a mental image, a picture that I have had in my mind of cause then effect.
Kimberly Spencer (00:06:18) - Right? It's kind of like just cause and effect. I like it kind of. It connotes, at least in my mind, a sequence of events. Here's the thing that just blew my mind. I was reading Power versus Force Doctor David Hawkins' book, which is an amazing thing. It's incredibly heady. Like it. It dives deep into the realm of consciousness, the emotional scale of vibration, and understanding your emotions. And just by reading it, you will feel elevated with new ideas flowing in. And it was as I was reading, and I'm going to read to you the exact words, because it blew my mind to have this paradigm of the perception that cause and effect was a sequence like, if I do this, then this happens, right? Think of it like a computer program, like it's ChatGPT like if I do this, then this happens. The thing is, is that what if it's not an if? Then what if it's not cause then effect? What if it's both? And this is what the beginning of the breakthrough came from in the book.
Kimberly Spencer (00:07:33) - Doctor David Hawkins writes causality occurs as simultaneity rather than as a sequence. Synchronicity is the term used by Doctor Carl Jung to explain this phenomenon in human experience. So, as we understand from our examination of advanced physics and events, here in the universe does not cause an event there, i.e. an effect in the universe. Instead, both appear simultaneously and the sequence is that of observation itself. So it's not like this is where perception is. The projection comes in. So the sequence, the sequence and belief that there is a sequence that if I do this, then I get that it's actually incorrect. Like that's very Newtonian logic versus quantum theory and quantum physics where I've heard of the double slit experiment, I've seen the double slit experiment I have studied and learned and it's like, oh, quantum mechanics in the quantum field. But damn, when I read it from this perspective, I was like, it is not. Like I'm literally speechless. I'm like finding words because I'm still having my moment with this. And it really was that the cause and effect were happening at the same time.
Kimberly Spencer (00:08:58) - Now you can be thinking, all of this is well and good information. Ta-da, la di da. What do I do with it? This is what you do with it. So when we change the variable of the cause, right, you want to achieve a certain goal. And that version of you who has, does, and is already achieving doing, having that goal is somewhere in the quantum realm, is somewhere out there. If you can dream it, it's already available to you right now. Now you may be thinking, but I want to have $1 million a year and I have like $46 in my bank account. So you're like, where's the disconnect? Here's the thing. So how this applies is you start thinking of the causes. Does that cause that million dollars a year? You allow yourself to imagine. Tap in to dream up. Who is the person? That version of you who is already there, who has already done the thing? Who already has the thing? Who's on the other side of that thing that at this moment, probably in your present reality, seems really fucking scary.
Kimberly Spencer (00:10:12) - Like, there are probably some things in your life, whether it is, you know, running for office or scaling your business or starting a family or losing the baby weight, whatever it is for, or healing your relationship with your spouse when you just last week were like, oh, I could leave that man. I could leave that asshole, you know, like those things. There's a version of you who already is on the other side of that. And so that hurdle that you're thinking is going to be so high and hard to climb. There's the version of you who's already on the other side of it and isn't looking at that hurdle as hard, challenging, difficult, crazy, etc. They've already done it. It's done. So in the realm of cause and effect. Imagine in your mind the effect you want to produce, the effect, of whatever that goal is. That dream is that you want to imagine in your mind and then really study your behavior at that moment, like deeply getting detailed, like, who are you surrounded by? What do you think about that? That problem that used to be a really big challenge, like let's say, for example, a problem in your marriage, like if you're on the other side of it and suddenly you're like, kissy, kissy, lovey, lovey, like having a great relationship, amazing marriage.
Kimberly Spencer (00:11:35) - How do you feel about that, those years that you went through that, how do you feel? Or those months or those weeks that you struggled and had to navigate those challenging conversations with your spouse? Let's say also, for example, that maybe it's that big financial goal that you want to achieve, right? Well, you're the version of you who already has it. They don't see that version of any of money making as big. There's a great example that, a mentor of mine from years ago, Amanda Francis, shares about another mentor of mine who I worked with, Katrina Ruth and Katrina Ruth Kocher, for a bit at some point in her business, and I forgot when, but I remember the story so vividly because as Amanda, who is known as the money Queen, she wrote the book rich as fuck, like she's amazing, she's phenomenal. And Katrina Ruth, also phenomenal, made multiple millions of dollars online selling courses. Just being creative, saying what she wants to out, and putting out what she wants to do out in the world.
Kimberly Spencer (00:12:35) - She's very much in the flow of just how she operates. Anyways, so she was coaching and Amanda Francis hit this point of like, oh my gosh, I've made so much money. Like I think it was like a quarter of a million or maybe half $1 million or something like that. And she was like, oh my gosh, I've made so much money, like, how do I sustain it? And she was having all these doubts and feelings and fears and of course, this is all repeated from her and Katrina. Ruth, I remember her answer so vividly of what Amanda said. Her answer was because she was like, you just need to make more money. And she's like, what she was expecting. Like some deeply spiritual answer, some answer of like, here's here are all the beliefs you need to shift in the quest. And no, Katrina, Ruth was like, you just need to make more money. She goes, there are people in this world who could not wipe their ass with a quarter of a million or half $1 million, however much it was like they could not even think of subsisting at that much.
Kimberly Spencer (00:13:37) - So the fact that you still think that this is a big level means that there is that perception that there is still a mountain in front of it versus being on the other side of it. Right. It's one of my favorite stories that I heard from both of them, having been mentored and worked with both of them. That story was such a game changer, because when you look at whatever money goal you have, whether it's sustaining the level of income that you have growing to a whole new level of income, or scaling to a whole new level of income, like whatever money goal you have, the version of you who already is on the other side of achieving that, they think that that's nothing. They're like, oh yeah, I've done that, been there, done that. Million dollars whooped. You do whooped, you do do. Now 25 million 30,000,050. Let's go. Like there's always the bridge in our physical world that has already been bridged in the quantum realm. So in the quantum realm, when you set forth that intention, that goal, the effect is already there.
Kimberly Spencer (00:14:47) - Like this is what the double slit experiment shows. This is the power of cause and effect not being a sequential thing, but being simultaneous. And because it's simultaneous in that synchronicity of it being simultaneous, the more you connect with that version of you who is on the other side of it? The faster you build that bridge in between the two. Like in the book says, both appear simultaneously and the sequence is that of the observation itself. So your observation of what's possible for you in this physical reality, your observation has to be not from your present circumstances. Why? Because that observation itself slows you down from achieving and receiving and having and doing and being the version of you who's already on the other side. So from the moment you set that intention, from the moment that you have that goal, there is already that version of you who doesn't know exactly what you want to be, do, and have that already exists in the quantum realm, and it is your job to bridge the gap.
Kimberly Spencer (00:16:03) - So here is how to start bridging the gap. One you start imagining and vividly picturing that version of you. That's one because the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between that which is real and that, like real, isn't presently real in your physical reality and that which is vividly imagined. That's why movies TV shows books and podcasts that have a deeply emotional impact on you. That's why you just want to be aware of what you're consuming because your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference. So that's why I choose to fill my unconscious mind with stories of possibility. Stories from rags to riches, stories of hope. Stories of people who are already where I want to be. Because that sets in my mind more proof, consistent proof. The second thing that dovetails off of that first one is the observation since the observation itself is what slows things down. If you're observing things in your physical present realm of what you are currently experiencing today, like let's say, for example, the example of you want to have your million dollars a year, and currently you have $46 in your bank account and you're like, how do I do this? So how you do this is you look at how many ways is your million-dollar year already happening. How many ways is that version of you? How many ways, how many signs? Carl Jung called them synchronicities.
Kimberly Spencer (00:17:39) - How many of those synchronicities are coming into your world? Maybe you start connecting and going on podcasts with other people who have built a $1 million business, or whatever size business you want to build. Maybe you start talking. Maybe you start reading some books about people who scaled to their million dollars a year, and then suddenly you're like, seeing the habits, and suddenly you're surrounded by friends, or suddenly you're in a coffee shop and you're like, oh my gosh, I'm realizing that this coffee shop probably brings in $1 million a year. And so that's probably if this coffee shop can do it, I probably can do like you, noticing those synchronicities is essential to speeding up the process of being on the other side of your goal. So how many ways can you stack the proof that the goal that you want to achieve is already available right now to you, at this very moment? How many ways a great exercise that I did. I remember way back when I was in Australia. It was like 2018 and I was so dead set on having that prized moment as a coach for the 10-K month like that was that's the one of the big markers.
Kimberly Spencer (00:18:51) - Next is 100 K and then the next is like 250 K per month. And then you go on to having $1 million a month. And it's. That's the kind of progression in the coaching world of like, how big can you actually get? And so there was an exercise that I was told in some manifestation group, and I was like, I'm going to try this out. I'm going to give this a go. And it was July, I think it was like July or something. And I was writing and it was a five, five by 55 by 55. And now I'm not saying you have to do this exercise, because the benefit of this exercise is to chunk up for a moment, the benefit of the exercise is to expand your brain to possibility. So what your job is to do is to write five times. I think it's like five times you write 55 ways that your goal can happen. So the goal is to expand the realm of possibility because what keeps most of us from our goals and dreams and big things is we lock in that this is the only right way that this can happen, which completely strips the divine God-sourced universe working its magic in your life.
Kimberly Spencer (00:20:05) - Because if you're like where you think, oh, you lock into that one way, well, good luck if that one way also involves other humans in order for you to achieve the goal. The only way that I'll stay in this marriage is if he changes how he speaks to me. And, you know, good luck. Good luck. But what about a bajillion other different ways? So two gods versus universe. There is a bajillion others. There is an infinite amount of ways that you can actually achieve, receive, and have your goal. Infinite. Beyond like infinite. So when we lock in to like, this is the only way or we can also, you know, if you are really smart, sometimes you can have a few different ways, but still those are your few different ways. That you can achieve your goal. And that's the problem. When you're really smart you lock into those ways, and then you strip the divine of being able to work its magic in your life.
Kimberly Spencer (00:21:12) - So this exercise I started doing and I thought, like, I think some of the 55 ways that I could have a 10K month were just crazy. Some of it was like I could have an ancestor, like a foreign relative, Venmo me from another country because they found out that I was related and wanted to donate a parent inheritance. Like I got really creative, like it was creative. Now, yes, the next month might. We did have a 10-K month, we actually had a 13K month. And I remember in 2018 that was such a big deal for me to just have that. That was like that was a moment I was like, I have arrived. And in that moment of having that 13 K month, that experience, yes, it did come through a client signing up for a high-performance coaching package, which was back then 10K. And from another, you know, other sales that we had coming in. But it was so funny because just being able to do that exercise allows you to break the pattern of how you think that money or health or relationships, quote-unquote, should come in or should look in your life.
Kimberly Spencer (00:22:22) - I've seen this with fitness to the same goal with fitness. I used to have it actually all the time with fitness when I first started teaching Pilates like before I really knew anything about manifestation, I just kind of figured it out within my body first. And what I discovered was when I locked myself in. Like, I have to work out four times a day and this. And that's how I'm going to get to my goal weight. Yeah. Good luck. Because what happens is then when you lock in that one way and you double down on your efforts for that one way, the other law, one of the other laws of the universe, the law of reversed effort kicks in. The subconscious mind does not like to be forced or cajoled or bullied into achieving results like it really is like a kid. So you have to treat your unconscious mind very kindly and so let it play because it's like a kid. So step number three, because it's like a kid. Let it play. Let it play with different ideas.
Kimberly Spencer (00:23:17) - Let it play with different shows. Now, this doesn't mean going off on a tangent and creating 14 other different companies, or signing up for like 30 different direct marketing companies because you think that's the way to achieve your million-dollar year. Let's not confuse playing with shiny object syndrome, right? Shiny object syndrome is where you get distracted from your main goal, and you think of all, these other ways because you have to have something else to make that income goal or whatever thing happened. Let's not get distracted with shiny object syndrome. So the key is, is play. So how can you bring more play into the process? So first we have a vision. Second, we have to stack the proof of how many ways what's happening in your life already. How many ways is your goal already showing up in this world? So for example, let's say your goal is weight loss and suddenly you start seeing a lot of skinny fit women around you in your circle, etc. What cuts people off and basically aborts their dream is when suddenly they see that person who's having that thing and they think all must be good for them.
Kimberly Spencer (00:24:34) - Oh, she must have it really easy. That's all programming. That's all programming. Because suddenly the thing is, is that when you start seeing it in your reality and you start noticing it. That's a sign. That's a sign that it's getting closer to you. That's a sign to lean in. That's a sign to be like, oh, damn, she looks good. She's fit. She's she's thin, she's taut, she's toned. If she can, I can too. That's when those moments that are so often we abort our dreams with our own deep-seated insecurities about who the person is that actually has that dream. So when you start seeing proof show up in your reality because you're training your unconscious mind to notice those things, when you start seeing the proof show up, celebrate it. There's a reason I know I am building a $25 million company. Why? Because I have friends who are in the 25 to $30 million range, and they have been showing up like crazy in my life. Right now it's bananas.
Kimberly Spencer (00:25:46) - Or as I said to my husband, bananas. It's so bananas it's gone British like B. And every time I see it, every time they show up in my reality, I'm like, yeah, if she can, I can too. Okay, let's learn from her. How can I how she thinks about her problems? How does she approach her day at a $25 million level? Like the same is true with weight. The same is true with relationships. If you start suddenly, if you want to set a goal for having an amazing relationship with your partner, and it's not so great right now, and you start seeing other happy kissy couples, like when you're out and about and you're like, oh, it's good for them. And you give the eye-rolling like your PDA. Well, gee, what are you telling your unconscious mind? You're literally telling your unconscious mind in those moments that you don't want that goal. Because your response is telling it. It's saying having that goal, having that dream is gross.
Kimberly Spencer (00:26:44) - Having that dream is, it's because you're literally rolling your eyes at it. You're literally downplaying other people who have that. I guarantee you success is far better on the other side when you haven't brute-forced your goals. Second, it shows up far faster when you understand this. So when you see somebody like, we had this, I had this, oh my gosh, during Covid. Oh my gosh, I saw so many people buying houses, so many people, so many of my friends bought houses. I didn't have a house. I was currently living in an Airbnb, not knowing where my next home was going to be, like supporting my family. Like, we weren't planning on buying a house in Australia, but I started to notice a ton of people buying houses like people were moving left and right. And I started to notice that and I was like, okay, all right. And every time I saw that, I didn't think like, oh, well, you know, good for them.
Kimberly Spencer (00:27:47) - They're not stuck in a foreign country and can't buy a house. No, no, no. Oh, I celebrated that. I was like, oh yes, Queen get you get those keys. Oh yeah. Well fast forward two years later, we have our house. So. There is magic that comes when you celebrate other's wins. So you create a space of play, and you also operate with celebration for other people who have what you have around you. Why? Because it lets your unconscious mind know that you can. That it can be. It's safe, it's okay. It's fun. It's playful to be at that level. So just know that the process of cause and effect is not linear and it's not sequential. It's happening at the same time. And your goal, whatever that goal is, is currently in presently available to you right now in the quantum realm. The key is that you need to start with who you are. Who are you showing up as? Are you showing up as that version? I highly doubt the version of you who's got that million dollar year, who's got that marriage, who's, you know, built that company, who's doing that thing is on the other side going, you gross.
Kimberly Spencer (00:29:07) - You look at my life. Look at how much money I have. Look at like, look at my relationship and how great it is., no, you're probably not even caring that it's a big deal. And you're like, okay, this is just how life is, and going about your day and being present with what you have and the responsibilities that you have now at that level and moving forward and acting accordingly. So if there's nothing else that you take from this episode and we we dove into a lot on this as far as how to manifest and how to create your dream reality and how to, you know, really embody that next level version of success in whatever area that you are currently going for. The key, though, here is to remember the big breakthrough cause and effect is not linear. It's not sequential. It happens at the same time. So let that sink in and know that at the same time that dream, that desire, that hope, that that seeing a brighter future for yourself in whatever arena that that the moment that was downloaded into you and inseminated into you.
Kimberly Spencer (00:30:20) - Via God's Source universe. It was like, yeah, I'd really like to. I really like to have that, or I'd really like to receive that, or I'd really like to do that. The moment that landed in your heart and in your soul is the same moment that it became possible for you to achieve that. It's the same moment that another version of you was created who already has it. So how do you need to start showing up and acting as her or him? How do you need to start showing up and acting like it? What does she think? What does she feel now that she's on the other side? How does she even think about the problem? Because she's already solved it. Now, if you're ready to dive deep into this with me. I have three openings for coaching in this next quarter. And I would be honored if this episode resonated with you to your core. If you're like, heck yes, how do I get more of that? How do I reframe it? How do I visualize? How do I see it before it even is in my reality? What synchronicities do I need to start noticing? How many ways is my dream actually happening already? I just I'm and you're struggling to be, and you're kind of stuck in your present circumstances and having trouble seeing it.
Kimberly Spencer (00:31:47) - Then I invite you to click the link down below to book your Divine Birthright consult. Where we will look at every single dream that's been placed in your heart. Every single dream that you are excited to create and give you. The mindset, the systems, and the strategy that you can actually have to achieve them based on your own subconscious strategy. When I coach my clients, I am not working from like my ego. As far as I think you quote unquote should do that. You don't need someone who tells you what you should do in your life in your business, and in how you communicate. You need someone who understands and can see how you do best, what you do best, and how to apply that strategy to every area of your life to uplevel every single area of your life. This is how my clients go on to fulfill their childhood dreams, to become the number one in the world, in their industry, to reach their one-year goals in three months, and to work with the top luxury brands.
Kimberly Spencer (00:32:56) - And to go from a 20-year career into landing sales for their new business within months. It is possible for you. If they can do it, you can too. And if this is inspiring you to take that next step, best action for you and you feel called, then I invite you to click the link below and I will see you in the next episode. As always, own your throne. Mind your business because your reign is now. Thank you so much for tuning in today. If what you heard resonated with you, be sure to subscribe and start creating a bigger impact now by sharing this with a friend. Just by doing that one simple act of kindness, you are creating a royal ripple to support more people in their sovereignty. And if you're not already following on social media, connect with me everywhere at Crown Yourself Now for more inspiration. I am so excited to connect with you in the next episode, and in the meantime, go out there and create a body, business, and life that rules because today you crown yourself.
