Go ALL IN on YOU.
“You are so fearless. I just so admire what you did - I mean, just choosing to stay in Australia! That’s so brave. I see myself doing that.”
I didn’t know what to say. I was wrapping up a session with one of my private clients and this was what she said.
It was then that it hit me.
PEOPLE ARE WATCHING.
They are watching what you do.
They are watching how you respond.
They are watching how you show up or don’t.
They are watching who you are.
They are watching your choices.
Your life is a testimony to what’s possible.
For many of my clients, us making the decision to stay in Australia and extend our visa for the foreseeable year showed EVERYTHING they desire…
THE FREEDOM TO GO WHERE YOU WANT WHEN YOU WANT.
The freedom to travel.
The courage to do that.
The fearlessness to defy other people’s fears of what a “normal” life looks like and instead…
JUST. FREAKING. DO. IT.
But it’s not only your clients who are...
How to Answer the Dreaded Question, “What Do You Do?”
It’s the question most of my coaching clients dread…
Clicking cocktail glasses and trying to confirm what you do onto a business card.
Life coach? Kinda...I guess.
Pilates instructor? Kinda.
Guide to fulfillment? Okay.
Fulfillment mentor? Sure.
Unapologetic Mompreneur? Nah, that doesn’t go on a card, right?
High-Performance Coach? Certified, hell yeah.
But, none of that describes WHAT YOU DO?
It doesn’t even describe who you are.
You’re so much more than a package of letters jumbled in perfect lines onto a 3.5 x 2 inches of a business card.
How do you describe life with so little?
What I do is simple…
It’s been what’s followed me through 4 careers…
I TRANSFORM PEOPLE’S STORIES INTO ONES OF POSSIBILITY.
As a Pilates instructor, I transformed people’s stories about what was possible for their bodies.
As a screenwriter, I transformed people’s stories about what was possible for their...
Do it SCARED.
I’ll admit, I was scared to do this.
I was scared to become a Pilates instructor.
I was scared to write my first screenplay.
I was scared to leave my ex.
I was scared to go out on my own and have my own private studio.
I was scared to find love where I had to be raw, and real, and honest, and authentic.
I was scared to be raw and real, and honest, and authentic.
I was scared to walk down the aisle and marry Spike.
I was scared to grow my business.
I was scared to stage my dad’s intervention.
I was scared to become a mom.
I was scared to give birth.
I was scared to ask for help with Declan.
I was scared to send my dad to rehab.
I was scared to stay in the Gold Coast of Australia during a worldwide pandemic.
I WAS SCARED THROUGH ALL OF IT. AND I DID IT ANYWAY.
Because for ALL of it - and I mean, ALL of it - I had that scared that is like butterflies flying around in your stomach kind of scared.
And that’s why I knew it was...
It Was Always Meant to Be You
WHY IS IT THAT SO MANY PEOPLE STRUGGLE AND SUFFER FROM SHOULDING THEMSELVES?
Where they should be.
What they should be doing.
How much they should be making.
Why they should be farther along by now.
Here’s the thing, I’ve noticed with working for high achieving visionary leaders for the past 4 years now…
THE MORE YOU SHOULD YOURSELF, THE MORE YOU’RE STUCK IN THE SHOULD INSTEAD OF ENJOYING WHAT IS.
YOU’RE NOT WHERE YOU “SHOULD” BE BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT THERE. #SORRYNOTSORRY
You’re right where you SHOULD be right now because that is where you are.
That’s not to say that you can’t or won’t or will never get there.
Wherever “there” is - that mystical magical place where everything is right as rain. Or is it?
Because when you can’t be where you ARE now, what makes you think that you’ll be able to be where you ARE when you’re “THERE?”
The time is now to stop SHOULDing...
Free Yourself.
Freedom. I’ve been meditating a lot on what it means to be free. What is freedom?
FREEDOM IS MANY THINGS, AND LIKE EVERY OTHER WORD, IT HAS VERY DIFFERENT MEANINGS TO EVERY SINGLE PERSON.
For some, they feel freedom when they feel safe. Others, feel freedom when they can make their own choices. For others, it’s the ability to do what they want, whatever they want, when they want, with whom they want, to whom they want, which can spiral into anarchy or absence of government beyond one’s own personal ability to govern themselves.
It’s a noun.
It’s a value.
It’s a behavioral state.
It’s “openness” in the archaic definition.
Sigmund Freud said, “Most people do not want freedom, because freedom assumes responsibility and most people are afraid of that responsibility.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt said, “In the truest sense, freedom cannot be bestowed; it must be achieved.”
And, probably my...
What Manifestation Stage are You In?
Feeling the feels of scarcity these past few weeks? I have.
We’ve been going for a BIG goal, like a massive leap goal and in the thick of it, I feel like...I...just...keep...miss-ing. The. be-at.
It feels like frustration, anger, impatience, annoyance.
And I’ve realized that I need to give myself permission to just freaking be in it. Like REALLY in it.
Still working. But also fully surrendering.
The week before I manifested my husband, I scribbled prolifically in my journal prayers to the high heavens of “SHOW ME” + “GIVE ME A SIGN.”
And the sign was just effing surrender.
Stop trying to control and go back to your values.
When I was driving to this networking event, everything in the two hours prior had said, “Nah, just skip it.”
My friend bailed on coming with me.
I was fresh out of the Pilates studio and had to take a whore’s bath to spruce up and look halfway decent.
I would be driving across town in...
Live Truthfully Under Imaginary Circumstances: The Parallel of Money and Acting
This whole “money mindset” was never a thing that I had to focus on. When I wanted to make $1500 a week teaching Pilates, I made $1500 a week. I set the intention, did the work, achieved the result.
It never occurred to me that there was a whole mindset around money. I never started thinking about my “money mindset” until I was $40,000 in debt with a fledgling hobbyist “business,” with one client at $100/month and no notion of a sales process back in 2016.
I didn’t make the connection between what had made me successful before in past businesses, sales, and money.
So I made it all about money. I thought about money all the time. I thought about all the ways I could make money. I journaled about money goals. I made it all about money. I counted every penny. I was vigilant with my spending.
But still, no sales. No business. And I was still stuck on the struggle bus.
The problem was I made it about MONEY.
Money was never been,...
Meet Yourself When You Sell
I was working with my client who was struggling with people canceling their membership to his programs.
“You know, Kim with the economy being what it is, I don’t blame them. I mean, I’ve been hunkering down, looking at my finances and looking where I can shave off a few dollars as well.”
“Hmmm…” I said. He must have noticed my pause.
“What do you mean…’hmm’?” He asked me.
“Well, it’s just interesting. As my mentor, Eben Pagan says, ‘‘When you sell you meet yourself.’”
“Hmmm, that is interesting,” he said. I could see his wheels spinning.
First, let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with managing your expenses, being fiscally responsible, being aware of where your money is going, honoring the dollars you spend and the dollars that are given to you in your business. Period.
It’s about ENERGY.
Isn’t it always, right?
Everything is energy...
The Greatest Entrepreneurial Lessons My Dad Taught me.
Dad.
It’s a word that packs a lot of meaning. Ask ten people and you’ll get ten different answers.
For me “dad” means parks, BELIEF, addiction, shame, money, entrepreneurs, possibility, Faith, challenge, change, pain, joy, pride, hope, county fairs, success, failure, sacrifice, police cars, alcohol, screaming matches, forgiveness dolls, provider, numbing, generosity, escapism, creativity, potential.
I grew up with an addict. It felt like I had four dads. And yet, amidst all the multiple personalities and transformations my dad has undergone, he’s managed to grow a business from measly to multi-million dollars a year with my mom. When I called halfway houses back in 2016, they were shocked that he could be such a high-functioning addict. “Truly remarkable!” one woman said.
I saw my parents spend 30 years growing a business. When I was Declan’s age my mom would pop me in the stroller and pass out flyers...
Dismantling the Diamond Goal of Being “Perfect”
By trying to be perceived as “perfect” that not only doesn’t sell, but it also doesn’t SERVE.
For years we as a society have been fed this myth of perfection. It’s been shoved down our throats of these magical, completely unrealistic standards to hold ourselves too.
And for high-achievers, whenever you fall short of this false fairytale, you vomit up the lies, the “should” the “supposed to’s” and the “have to’s” of someone else’s playbook beating yourself up that you aren’t “there yet.” Wherever “there” is…and usually, even you don’t even know.
You just know what you DON’T want.
When I ask the question of “What DO you want?” I get a list of the programming the conditioned responses of what ‘success” and “love” and “relationships” are.
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