It was this time two years ago that I found out...I was pregnant. And it was in that moment that I started to freak the fuck out.
You see, I wasn’t ready. And yeah, I know no one is really ever ready for the craziness of parenthood. But I REEEEEEALLLY, wasn’t ready.
I was unfulfilled teaching Pilates at my own studio...
I’d taken a side job teaching Pilates at a studio where I also was feeling unfulfilled...
Spike and I had separated ourselves from my parents while my dad got sober...
I was doing coaching in my car for $100 a month!
And I’d had this expensive blog, called Crown Yourself, that Is always wanted to turn into a coaching business, but I didn’t think anyone would take me seriously with all the sparkle. (LIES!)
I felt so alone.
A little Being was growing inside me. A little being was dependent upon me for life.
BEST. THING. EVER.
We lovingly called him Dr. Always Wrong. On our first ultrasound visit, he saw that my placenta was covering my cervix, which, had it stayed that way would have ensured a C-section, something that I was simply unavailable for. He told me I had a 50/50 chance of it moving.
Meanwhile, my midwives had no qualm about the placenta moving. And it did. And I had my son exactly as I wanted to have him - naturally, in a tub, like a merman. (You can see the final result on Chicken Soup for the Soul’s Netflix show, “Being Dad”)
Everyone has the ability to shift our perceptions of what’s possible, given the information they choose to share with us. And, the information we choose to accept shapes and sometimes creates our beliefs about what is possible.
The people who raised you, be it your mother or father shaped your...
Like many women, finding that right guy was a mystery to me for a long time. I’d gotten it wrong so many times in the past. I questioned my judgement. I questioned whether there really was someone out there who could handle all this sparkle.
Then, one night back in 2012, when I wasn’t looking for ANYONE, while I was on my way to a networking event, I said a prayer. I had just turned off my street, paused at a stoplight and said, “God, I just want to learn more about me. I want to be 100% authentically me...oh, and I want to travel.”
That was my deepest desire.
Because all my failed relationships were stepping stones on a search to understand who I was, what I wanted. And I was tired of living by other people’s rules as to what that would look like.
After successfully having a film that I co-wrote be produced and distributed, after successfully owning a...
Every bar needs a good bouncer, right? Well, so does your body.
And just like any good bar, your body needs a team to tell those negative emotions to BOUNCE, especially when they get drunk off of Fear and start tainting the fun for everyone.
Anger, anxiety, and depression can trigger inflammation linked to heart disease. Stress, which is the fancy-modern name for fear, literally makes your body stupid. Too much stress causes your blood to coagulate faster. It causes the natural peristalsis in your intestines to slow.
This is all well and good if you’re stressed out because you’re being chased by a saber tooth tiger. Being in fight-or-flight mode is necessary…in that moment.
But, it’s not so good if your stress is because of too many distractions because you’re multitasking five different things, downing cup-after-cup of caffeine with an overwhelming to-do list that’s barely done.
That’s why every...
When I started my first online business 6 years ago, the online arena was sooooo much simpler. Email list. Facebook. Youtube.
Maybe we’d Twitter from time to time or throw up an Insta image, since Instagram was in its toddler years back then.
But, now...
A new social media platform emerges every minute! And every existing platform keeps adding on more stuff...Insta Stories, InstaTV, Facebook Live, Facebook Messenger, Facebook groups, Facebook stories, Facebook group stories, Facebook page stories.
AAAAAAAAAAAHHHH!
That’s because in my interview with social media strategist, Sarah Lorenz, we break down what platforms you should be on for your business, and we practice the K.I.S.S. model - Keep It Simple Silly.
After studying marketing, working as a Marketing Manager and becoming a freelancer, she now runs her...
When I first started on this motherhood journey thing, I thought I knew everything. I read all the books. I got all the advice. I did all the things to prepare (and to ignore that sinking gut instinct feeling like I was about to go on the largest rollercoaster of my life). And what a ride it has been so far.
Choosing to scale my business when I was pregnant was one thing. Actually doing it after giving birth...well, that was a whole new ball game. Fortunately, I was in a business coaching group, surrounded by like-minded women who were cheering me on. That was my inspiration to create The Queens Way. Fast forward, 18 months later, and my choice to have twins - a business and a baby - took us to Australia as a family for a month and gave me more time to spend with my child as I made even more money.
What also helped, was getting guidance early...before I was in the “Holy shit what have I done?”...
Been a while since you slid into the splits, isn’t it? I get it. You’re a little older than you were two years ago and maybe that fave yoga teacher of yours moved away. And between balancing growing your business, managing the day-to-day, and the kids who has time to stretch, right?
In my Pilates days, one of the most common problems I saw was a lack of flexibility. Back then, I only assessed the physical. Yet, as I learned more about our glorious minds, flexibility is a key to maintaining sanity let alone physical agility. Looking back on the hundreds of clients I worked with in Pilates, the ones who were the most stressed out, most emotionally taxed, most stuck in a fixed mindset (meaning totally not open to new ideas or new ways of thinking) were also the ones who were the LEAST flexible physically.
You see, back in 1989 Dr. Deepak Chopra, in his book Quantum Healing,...
Have you ever been on a roll with your productivity and then suddenly...WHAM...life hits you in the face? Do you ever start practicing a new habit, like journaling everyday, and you’re feeling super awesome, like things are finally unlocking for you for a couple weeks and then...HOLY SHIT...a freaking tsunami of doubt, fear, and anxiety wreck havoc on your emotions? Have you ever started putting yourself out there, maybe jumping back into the dating scene, or actually doing those Facebook Live-streams for your business that used to scare the crap out of you, and then suddenly, all you want to do is crawl in a hole and hide?
One of my awesome high performance clients was rocking a new meditation practice. She’d committed to doing 100 days of meditation. (Dang girl...get it!) After two weeks, both she and I could see a massive transformation. She was more assertive,...
“Why mama?” Spike and I hear a toddler say while on our regular hike up Tesmescal Canyon in Pacific Palisades, CA. We look to each other, knowing that our days of Declan’s blissful baby talk are coming to an end. Soon we will transition into toddlerhood, and our son will begin to unequivocally question everything.
And rightly so.
Or they can keep us stuck in victim-hood. Questions are powerful.
Look at the difference in the power of these questions:
Why does this always happen to me?
What can I do differently so this doesn’t happen to me again?
The first question will leave you with a lot of reasons, excuses, and limiting beliefs that keep you stuck.
“It must be because I’m too fat/skinny/old/tall/short/feminine/masculine…” And the list can go on for as many reasons that you can give it. The problem is that takes away ownership or any ability for you to create...
This past week, I was jamming with one of my high performance coaching clients. We were working on the topic of courage, and how she could work that muscle better. We discovered that somewhere along the way, she had attributed acts of courage with being confident. However, since she didn’t view herself as a “confident” person, she had allowed other people to people to take the reigns for her...and she just, kind of, went along. Now, fifty years later, she was finally putting herself in the driver’s seat.
And, because she didn’t feel confident, her courageous, bold action steps were few and far between. The pattern: taking a giant leap forward toward what she wanted - freedom, success, opportunity, soul-enhancing relationships - and then back-stepping four or five steps, nearly back to where she started. Kind of like a Scooby Doo cartoon. (You can add the sound effects.)
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