Have you ever received feedback for your work that blew you away?
Like, I’m talking knock you off your socks, holy cow, “damn I am awesome” level of validation for the soul-work that you do day in and day out every day?
We forget - because it’s BECOME WHO WE ARE - that there are people who struggle in this or that area that we have just freaking mastered.
That’s why I share this today with you.
This email is NOT from me. Heck, it’s not even written by me. It was written by Lara Zielin to her Author Your Life community about her experience in our High-Performance Consult Call…
With her permission, I am sharing it with you - her vulnerability, openness, and candor speak VOLUMES to the...
Oops, I did it again. Yes, I pulled a Brittany. No, I didn’t run off and get married...again. I caught myself doubting myself. #OhNoSheDidnt
Yes, even now, even after the Universe mother-effing DELIVERED LIKE A MOFO last year in #alltheways, I still caught myself spiraling last week in a story of “not being supported.”
Ah, fear.
Doubt.
My old friends. Good to see you again. Thanks for the lesson...again.
I dove deep into this self-limiting belief of “not being supported” in our latest coaching workshop with our Mindful Monarchs Membership on Monday.
And having coached high achievers now for the past five years, I’ve noticed that it’s not really “new level, new devils.”
Typically it’s the same motherfucking devil that keeps showing up...just in different forms.
Sometimes it’s in the form of your body.
Sometimes it’s in the form of your business.
Sometimes it’s...
Consistently throughout these past trying months facing the deepest fear and acceptance of loss I have ever known after losing my dad, I have been told, “You’re so strong.”
Or, “You’re the strongest person I know.” I don’t say this to brag. My mom has too.
And I’ll be honest, I am strong and I’m tired of being strong and I’m proud of my strength at the same time.
Sometimes the “strong ones” struggle most when they feel anything but.
And that’s how I’ve felt on and off for the past few months since my dad’s death.
Strength is forged in the fire of fear.
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of loss.
Fear of the process of becoming more than you thought you could, or rising beyond what you thought was even possible.
...even fear of your own success and greatness....
Social media has caused friendships to get lazy.
Instead of checking in on a friend, we check their feed.
Instead of meeting up with a friend, we see their post and think, “Eh, I already know what’s going on in their life.”
Instead of reaching out to a friend individually, we post and check back for the likes and comments to see who REALLY is our friend.
We have more ways to connect than ever and yet feelings of loneliness and isolation are on the rise. Why?
Social media has brought us a wide breadth of connection, but it can lack the depth and intimacy of a face-to-face call or a coffee date chat.
It’s given our egos the great big boost to think we “KNOW” what’s going on in someone’s world.
It’s given our ego’ the great big boost to think everyone else “SHOULD KNOW” what’s going on in our world.
They don’t.
You don’t.
How arrogant are we to think that we “KNOW” what is...
Have you ever been so overwhelmed, you feel like you’re paralyzed to do anything? Do you struggle with feeling like there is never enough time to get everything you want to get done?
The beauty of overwhelm is...well...it’s like the body.
When you’re lifting weights, you’re working out to failure. You’re doing reps until your body is literally OVERWHELMED with the capacity and cannot go anymore.
This is how your muscles grow.
This is how you also grow in anything you are looking to accomplish in this life.
How you do anything is how you do everything after all.
You take it to the max...and then allow for the rest.
Most high achievers just forget the latter.
Having worked with high achievers for the past 5 years, the number one struggle I have seen them struggle with is this - OVERWHELM.
High achievers will ALWAYS have something more to do.
High achievers will ALWAYS add more to their plate - and probably more than what their capacity currently is.
And...
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If you say you’re unavailable for anything less than profit and prosperity, then QUEEN, you best be ACTING like it.
Being unavailable for anything less than profit and prosperity means…
You RESPECT your own boundaries around your time.
You don’t give away things that people normally pay you for free…like, “picking your brain.”
You OWN your prices and you are proud to share them with your prospects and customers.
You will curtail any haggling or bartering conversations toot suite because you know the worth of what you provide.
Your policies around your time, money, refunds, are mother-effing crystal clear and you hold the line on those.
Otherwise…
You can affirm and declare all the livelong days that you say you’re unavailable for profit and prosperity, but if your ACTIONS don’t back it up, your heart (and your subconscious mind) just log those...
It is what it is. So cliche, right? But, as I always say, cliches are cliches because they are common truth.
But, here’s the thing…
So many people live in the mythical land of shoulda-coulda-woulda.
And it’s a lovely place if you like stewing in your own guilt, shame, apathy, and anger.
But, eh, not so much for me. (Even though, I’m human and, of course, visit from time to time.)
Acknowledging what IS is powerful.
Acknowledging what happened is transformative.
Here’s the thing….
No matter what curveballs or horrific life experiences you have survived...they happened.
It is what is.
You may not like it.
It may have been completely wrong, immoral, heinous, and unjustified what happened.
It happened.
Now, here’s where the...
Doing hard things is hard. And with whatever it is you are looking to accomplish…
Whether it’s…
Connecting with your 3-year old mid-tantrum...
Saving your marriage...
Reprogramming your relationship with food…
Building a multi-million dollar company…
Launching your first course…
There will be moments of hard.
Yes, “hard” is a construct of the mind.
Yes, “hard” also feels gnarly when you are in the thick of it, trying to make it work, find a way, discover a solution, see the opportunity when in the thick of a problem.
And there comes a time when you have you f*it moment.
It’s that glorious moment of throwing your hands up in the air and SURRENDERING the how.
SURRENDERING to God, Source, the Universe, that you are maxed out and you need the big guns to take over.
SURRENDERING to the flow, the ease, the possibility, because, quite frankly, you’ve reached your edge.
It’s the period when you...
Ever feel like there’s never enough money? I used to as well. Back when I first started my business I was stuck in a paradigm of “never enough.”
“Never enough money.”
“Never enough time.”
Pure scarcity.
As I started to tweak and hone my mindset, reshaping and reframing these beliefs
Money is all around you. It’s in the phone you hold in your hand.
It’s the laptop you work on.
It’s the person
It’s the coffee shop itself.
I stopped seeing money through the limited paradigm of just what I had in my bank account, which, frankly, back then, in my bank account wasn’t a lot.
Money is energy.
And what I started to notice was that successful people, people who had money, saw money everywhere.
Because money is energy, it flows. It’s not stagnant or stiff.
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