5 Steps to Stop Procrastinating and Do That Thing That You're Putting Off
I gotta tell you, it has been a week of celebration up here at Crown Yourself headquarters (and by that, I do mean my current, my bedroom/office.)
I was so honored when Dr. Ely Weinschneider, asked to interview me for his series for Ariana Huffington’s magazine, Thrive Global on...
“How Extremely Busy Executives Make Time to be Great Parents”
Because let me tell you, this mompreneur thing ain’t easy.
YOU CAN HAVE EASE. BUT "EASE" AND "EASY" ARE TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS.
"EASE" IS A STATE OF BEING. "EASY" REFERS TO THE LOAD OF ACTION BEING PERFORMED.
Let’s break it down in NLP terms.
Ease is a noun, meaning it’s a state. And states, as you know, can change from moment to moment. If by “easy,” we’re talking about the sheer amount of load of work being performed...it’s a crap ton...literally. From dirty diapers to designing integrative intuitive strategies in our CRM, the workload is a lot.
It’s not...
Who's Sitting On Your Throne?
Beware! There is a dangerous, insidious usurper in your kingdom. She’s been sitting on your throne for far too long. She looks like you. Maybe you see her in the mirror. It’s not like she’s an evil twin, she has a purpose. And don’t get me wrong, she loves you so much. In fact, she’s only ruling in your stead to try to protect you.
She’s just doing a piss-poor job of it. She’s holding you back from achieving all that you desire. She’s keeping your kingdom small, contained, within the boundaries of your comfort zone. She whispers words of doubt into your ear whenever your instinct tries to get out of line and go for something big…
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“Don’t invest in that program, even though you know it’s going to change your life and business. What if you lose all your money?’
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“Don’t jump into that relationship, he’s too old. What if it doesn’t work out?”
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“Don’t get up early...
3 Linguistic "Tells" to Help You Banish Blame and Lead with Love
Feeling unfulfilled in your business? Do you catch yourself complaining about your life or your relationships on a regular basis?
When I think back to only a couple years ago when I was still feeling so unfulfilled...
I didn’t LOVE what I was doing.
I didn’t LOVE how much I was making.
I didn’t LOVE where I was in my life.
Every day felt like something was going wrong. Ever been there? What shifted for me MASSIVELY was getting pregnant. Suddenly...WHAM!
My, my how quickly things changed.
But, it was more than just getting pregnant with my son, more than the certifications, more than the clients, more than achieving the $13K months, more than the 354% increase in my income (while that was really , REALLLY, fun)...
IT WAS BECAUSE I FREAKING LOOOOOOOOOOOVEE WHAT I DO. ALL OF IT.
The thrill I get when a client transforms within the span of weeks is radical. The joy I have from getting emails of clients getting their first $2400 a month client, or getting their first...
3 Steps to Stretch Your Body's Built In B.S. Meter
What if everything you wanted is already located inside your body?
I know, I know. It sounds crazy, right? Almost too good to be true.
Think about it though...
Have you ever had that gut feeling that someone was lying to you? But, consciously, you were thinking, “No...he’d never do that to me. We’ve been together for so long.” And you give yourself reason, after reason, after reason to try to reason yourself out of that feeling.
Hate to break it to you, sweetheart, but that gut feeling is your unconscious mind telling you what you want...the truth.
And in a Jack Nicolson moment of love, your conscious mind is thinking, “You can’t handle the truth!!!” It’s scared of the truth. Thus all the reasons, and excuses that contradict your instinct.
EGO VS. INSTINCT
You see, your unconscious mind rules your body. It’s one of its prime directives. After all, you’re not consciously thinking about breathing. You’re not...
Unlock Your Body-Business Connection
After teaching Pilates for over ten years and owning three businesses, I get this question a lot now as a high performance coach and business strategist...
WHAT DOES YOUR BODY HAVE TO DO WITH YOUR BUSINESS?
IN A WORD, EVERYTHING.
It’s no secret that the world’s highest performers when studied reported having MORE energy, and MORE time to workout, and they found that time CONSISTENTLY.
But it’s not just about your body…
How’s your energy?
How’s your confidence?
How’s your sex life?
ALL OF THESE ARE AFFECTED BY YOUR PERCEPTION OF HOW YOU LOOK AND FEEL IN YOUR BODY, AND ALL OF THESE ARE NECESSARY FOR BUSINESS...YES, EVEN SEX TOO.
Think about it…
Let’s break each of those down step-by-step
NO.1 - ENERGY
This happens to be my specialty as a coach...and one of my favorite subjects ever! And I’m not just talking about physical energy, like the energy it takes to run a few miles. I also mean the mental and emotional energy...
How to Overcome Perfectionism
When I was 7 years old, my mom was driving me to ballet class. I was in the back wrapping my hair into the perfect bun. This bun was a process and it had to be completed to perfection. Tight, taught. Immobile. And in the right place on my head. Not directly on top. And not too close to the nape of the neck either. It had to be perfectly balanced, right before the gentle curve of my head sloped down to my spine. Teetering on the perfect pointe.
THERE WERE FOUR INSTRUMENTAL STEPS THAT WENT INTO THE CREATION AND PERFECTION OF THIS BUN.
Step one: pull top half of hair into a half/up half-down on the crux of the head. Tie it. Step two, pull bottom half of hair to meet the half-done pony into a full ponytail. Tie it again. Step three: : twist the ponytail and wrap it around itself. Tie again. Step four: bobby pin stray hairs and spay with Aquanet. (Yes, I said it...Aquanet.)
The perfection of this bun determined how the next 60-minutes of my ballet class were going to go. Should it spiral...
13 Reasons Why I'm Thankful for Your Mistakes
It was this time two years ago that I found out...I was pregnant. And it was in that moment that I started to freak the fuck out.
You see, I wasn’t ready. And yeah, I know no one is really ever ready for the craziness of parenthood. But I REEEEEEALLLY, wasn’t ready.
I was unfulfilled teaching Pilates at my own studio...
I’d taken a side job teaching Pilates at a studio where I also was feeling unfulfilled...
Spike and I had separated ourselves from my parents while my dad got sober...
I was doing coaching in my car for $100 a month!
And I’d had this expensive blog, called Crown Yourself, that Is always wanted to turn into a coaching business, but I didn’t think anyone would take me seriously with all the sparkle. (LIES!)
I felt so alone.
BUT THEN, AS THE DIVINE WOULD HAVE IT, I WASN’T.
A little Being was growing inside me. A little being was dependent upon me for life.
BEST. THING. EVER.
IT WAS LIKE DECLAN WAS GROWING IN THE PLACE MY FEAR AND...
Your Body, Your INFORMED Choice
We lovingly called him Dr. Always Wrong. On our first ultrasound visit, he saw that my placenta was covering my cervix, which, had it stayed that way would have ensured a C-section, something that I was simply unavailable for. He told me I had a 50/50 chance of it moving.
I SAID, “GREAT, I’M ALREADY HALFWAY THERE!”
Meanwhile, my midwives had no qualm about the placenta moving. And it did. And I had my son exactly as I wanted to have him - naturally, in a tub, like a merman. (You can see the final result on Chicken Soup for the Soul’s Netflix show, “Being Dad”)
AS A HIGH PERFORMANCE COACH, I SEE DAY IN AND DAY OUT HOW WE ARE SHAPED BY OUR BELIEFS.
Everyone has the ability to shift our perceptions of what’s possible, given the information they choose to share with us. And, the information we choose to accept shapes and sometimes creates our beliefs about what is possible.
The people who raised you, be it your mother or father shaped your...
Courtship Confessions: How to Deal with Old-School Dating in the Modern Era
Like many women, finding that right guy was a mystery to me for a long time. I’d gotten it wrong so many times in the past. I questioned my judgement. I questioned whether there really was someone out there who could handle all this sparkle.
SOMETIMES I EVEN QUESTIONED MY SANITY FOR JUMPING BACK INTO THE DATING POOL AFTER SEVERAL MAJOR FAILS.
Then, one night back in 2012, when I wasn’t looking for ANYONE, while I was on my way to a networking event, I said a prayer. I had just turned off my street, paused at a stoplight and said, “God, I just want to learn more about me. I want to be 100% authentically me...oh, and I want to travel.”
That was my deepest desire.
Because all my failed relationships were stepping stones on a search to understand who I was, what I wanted. And I was tired of living by other people’s rules as to what that would look like.
After successfully having a film that I co-wrote be produced and distributed, after successfully owning a...
Why You Need a Self Care Team
Every bar needs a good bouncer, right? Well, so does your body.
NEGATIVE EMOTIONS ARE TOXIC FOR YOUR BODY.
And just like any good bar, your body needs a team to tell those negative emotions to BOUNCE, especially when they get drunk off of Fear and start tainting the fun for everyone.
Anger, anxiety, and depression can trigger inflammation linked to heart disease. Stress, which is the fancy-modern name for fear, literally makes your body stupid. Too much stress causes your blood to coagulate faster. It causes the natural peristalsis in your intestines to slow.
This is all well and good if you’re stressed out because you’re being chased by a saber tooth tiger. Being in fight-or-flight mode is necessary…in that moment.
But, it’s not so good if your stress is because of too many distractions because you’re multitasking five different things, downing cup-after-cup of caffeine with an overwhelming to-do list that’s barely done.
That’s why every...