Have you ever looked for that next thing to “complete” you? Maybe it was another certification or degree? Or that ONE magic thing that you need that will CHANGE EVERYTHING? 

Maybe it’s another course, or another coach or another THING- something outside of you that you THINK you need to “fix” you.

And I gotta tell ya... you’re looking in all the wrong spots. 

There is no magic cure.

There is no fix.

There is no one coach, no one program, no one guru, no one book, no one tool, no one solution to “fix” you or your business. 

You have everything you need inside of you right now.

True transformation, true change only comes from one place - YOU. 

I spent nearly three decades of my life trying to be that “thing” for someone else - my dad. Maybe if I was skinny enough? Maybe if I was smart enough? Maybe if I got enough good grades? Then he’d change. 

None of that worked. 

One of the greatest mistakes I see with high achievers, is they look for that next “thing.”

Something they can ...

One of the trends I absolutely hate in my industry as a coach is seeing coaches with LITTLE TO NO business experience in their coaching business, suddenly turns into a “business coach” because they realized it was more lucrative.

Yet, they had no past successful business...and no proven results of what works.

They have no track record or results. 

So they give their clients all this busy-work - post on social media, rebrand, build your website, show up on Insta Stories every single day, do podcasts, and do more podcasts, launch a Youtube channel, provide value

...so much value

...tons of value

...without truly knowing the business. 

They spit out regurgitated info with fancy acronyms like I.C.A. and K.P.I.’s and use catch-all phrases out of business development books.

But they’re still stuck making 3-4 figures a month. Wah. Wah. 

They sure are good at giving out STUFF to do though. You’ll be busier than ever with them. 

But will you actually get transformative results? 

Like...

Ever caught yourself in massive comparison mode? Like everyone seems to be doing SO much better than you, for some crazy reason and you’re wondering…

“What’s wrong with me?” #BeenthereDoneThat

Comparison - division - is just Fear in a new outfit. 

The ego looooooves to make ourselves appear “separate” from one another - divided.

As if she can have it, but I can’t.

Or it works for them, those people, out there, but not for you.

Look...

Whenever you doubt or catch fear clutching you by the throat again about your future, or your success...

Cheer on someone else’s success. 

Seriously, wish them well in ALL the ways from the depths of your soul.

Celebrate TF out of what they have accomplished and as you do, train your brain to know this by heart...

“I can have/do ____________ too.”

This trains your subconscious mind to recognize that that GOAL, that dream, that thing you are working towards us CLOSE...it’s so fucking close. 

I literally did this at a Grace Lever event last yea...

Ever think "I should have more followers?"⁠ Or, “I should have more people on my list?” Or, “I should be making more money in my business?”

Then you may also be experiencing feelings of…

Overwhelm, anxiety, frustration, resentment, holding back tears, or screams, or rails at the high heavens for why are they so much farther along than you.

Listen...

Should-ing is soul-sucking.⁠⁠

If you’re stuck in comparison, beating yourself up for not being where you "should" be vs. where you are, showing up on social media...and, heck, just building a business can SUCK.⁠

Should-ing anything is contractive energy that ain't nobody got time for. ⁠

Least of all you. And especially not your customers. 

Everything is energy, after all. 

And we feel it when you're putting on a show or trying to be like someone else, or posting with a 💩ton of "shoulds."

Your audience is smart. Like you.

And we KNOW, even when we can’t put our finger on it when showing up is just a should instead of a service. 

Personal development 101, psychoanalysis, neuroscience - all require looking inward. You see it all over the interwebs, influencers are citing positive inspirational, reflective quotes, things to make you think.

But is it just more shit to consume or is it, Soul?

Messaging requires you to message - to put your message out there. To share and serve with whatever message comes through.

You’re not looking inward when you’re looking outward for likes, followers, or for people to be dazzled by your insight.

That’s pride. 

Your intention is off.

You cannot serve two masters. 

It’s your mission and message.

Or it’s other people’s approval of what you say/do/think.

There is no grey zone. 

It’s either inward or outward. Otherwise, you get cross-eyed. 

Divine downloads, creation, messages, ideas come THROUGH you, for you and for the service of your world.

You’re either serving with those insights or having those likes serve your ego.  

ONE IS LOVE, THE OTHER IS PRIDE. 

When does lo...

It's not perfect, this journey. 

There are moments worthy of puffy eyes, release, pain, struggle, triumph, challenge, championship, figuring it out, and all the above combined into the span of 90 seconds sometimes.

But it is in those moments of crashing, burning, finding, releasing, allowing that allows for all the pieces to come together. 

Breathe. 

Keep going.

You got this, puffy eyes or not. 

You don’t have to put it out in the world - but perfect doesn’t sell and it PAYS to be human.

As Captain Marvel shows us, the benefit of being human is that we have forged an unshakable resilience to get back up again...

And again...

And again...

And again...

And every time we stand up, FOR ourselves, FOR something greater than use, FOR love, FOR more...

You strengthen the resilience within us, which, when forged, exercised in the throws of "too much," stress, overwhelm, pain, struggle, choice, choosing, and redeciding, recommitting to that vision. 

You see more of who you are beco...

“Once I get my degree, then I’ll start my Youtube channel and posting more on social media.”

Ah, the great If/Then Syndrome, oh I was ready to tackle this one with my Revolutionary Empire Builder head-on.

“I’m curious, how have you been able to get your degree?”

“Well...I studied and practiced.”

“EXACTLY. YOU ACCOMPLISH THIS THROUGH DOING AND PRACTICING AND REPETITION. IT’S LIKE A MUSCLE. YOU HAVE TO STRENGTHEN IT. 

Putting content out there on the interwebs is the same thing - it too is a muscle the needs to be strengthened, toned, worked on.

All social media profiles were flabby, small, and weak at one point too.

Those that have grown have grown because the leader chose to strengthen them.”

All the things you want to create in this world take disciplined work.

Notice I didn’t say HARD.

I said DISCIPLINED.

It is a practice, like going to the gym. 

And when you’re at the gym, as you go, more and more and more, it starts getting easier and easier.

But, the first practice yo...

Ever have that one thing that keeps recurring in your life every time you feel like you’re leveling up? 

For me, it’s around rejection. I have had to do a lot of healing around people leaving.

I’d reject parts of me - the silly, the weird, the dramatic, the ultra-girly, the ballerina -  or parts that I thought would allow me to fit in, only to be rejected. 

HINT: DEEP DOWN, HUMANS AREN’T STUPID. THEY KNOW WHEN YOU’RE FAKING IT. SOMETIMES THEY MAY NOT WANT TO KNOW THAT YOU’RE FAKING IT - BUT FAKING IT CAN BE FELT JUST AS DEEPLY AS FEELING IT. 

I thought I was the weird kid growing up - that it was something I did.

But really, I was just mirroring my own rejection of myself in others. 

Rejecting the shame of trying to fit in, when really, I’ve always known I was different. 

Rejecting the guilt for not trusting that I was enough.

People are our mirrors. 

When you try to hide from people, burying yourself in processes, or work or studies, or other stuff that it’s easy to hide insi...