Multiple 6-figures in sales...with a typo.
Ever worry that what you’re putting out into the world isn’t “perfect”? I mean, god forbid you to have a typo or grammatical error in anything - let alone the button on your checkout page.
Now, I can write, but grammar ain’t my specialty. Pretty much all my clients know this.
Sometimes my brain - like right now - writes faster than my computer has time to catch up.
In NLP, I’m what you call, highly kinesthetic. It’s an empath thing. I’m more about the feeling of the words than the actual spelling of words.
And, because when you write on the computer you are looking down into your kinesthetic and auditory digital representational systems your computer work can come from a place of feeling and making sure that things “make sense.”
So as long as the words have the right FEEL and make SENSE, I literally don’t SEE a problem, you follow?
That’s why I don’t actually...
The Solution for Being Stuck in Comparison Mode
Ever caught yourself in massive comparison mode? Like everyone seems to be doing SO much better than you, for some crazy reason and you’re wondering…
“What’s wrong with me?” #BeenthereDoneThat
Comparison - division - is just Fear in a new outfit.
The ego looooooves to make ourselves appear “separate” from one another - divided.
As if she can have it, but I can’t.
Or it works for them, those people, out there, but not for you.
Look...
Whenever you doubt or catch fear clutching you by the throat again about your future, or your success...
Cheer on someone else’s success.
Seriously, wish them well in ALL the ways from the depths of your soul.
Celebrate TF out of what they have accomplished and as you do, train your brain to know this by heart...
“I can have/do ____________ too.”
This trains your subconscious mind to recognize that that GOAL, that dream, that thing you are working towards us...
The world wonβt give you your freedom
The number one thing most of my clients come to me for is not to build their business or boost their productivity.
Ultimately...
It’s to have FREEDOM.
Freedom inside their empire...
...Instead of being a slave to their laptop.
...Instead of being beholden to some other boss.
...Instead of being trapped in their mind of frustration, guilt, anger, and all the “shoulds” other people have projected onto them.
Most people are just looking for freedom in all the wrong places.
They look for it out there -
Maybe if I just do this new diet or new marketing strategy, THEN, I’ll get freedom in my business.
Maybe if I just have THAT car or THAT bag or that thing, then I’ll get freedom through other people’s approval of how cool I am.
Maybe if I just get MORE words of affirmation, MORE validation from others that my work is valid, real, true, THEN, I will feel free.
Maybe if I just get more sales or make more money, or get a...
3 Fake Business Rules of Social Media to Break Right Now
Ever think "I should have more followers?" Or, “I should have more people on my list?” Or, “I should be making more money in my business?”
Then you may also be experiencing feelings of…
Overwhelm, anxiety, frustration, resentment, holding back tears, or screams, or rails at the high heavens for why are they so much farther along than you.
Listen...
Should-ing is soul-sucking.
If you’re stuck in comparison, beating yourself up for not being where you "should" be vs. where you are, showing up on social media...and, heck, just building a business can SUCK.
Should-ing anything is contractive energy that ain't nobody got time for.
Least of all you. And especially not your customers.
Everything is energy, after all.
And we feel it when you're putting on a show or trying to be like someone else, or posting with a ton of "shoulds."
Your audience is smart. Like you.
And we KNOW, even when we can’t put our finger on it when showing up is...
Going cross-eyed?
Personal development 101, psychoanalysis, neuroscience - all require looking inward. You see it all over the interwebs, influencers are citing positive inspirational, reflective quotes, things to make you think.
But is it just more shit to consume or is it, Soul?
Messaging requires you to message - to put your message out there. To share and serve with whatever message comes through.
You’re not looking inward when you’re looking outward for likes, followers, or for people to be dazzled by your insight.
That’s pride.
You cannot serve two masters.
It’s your mission and message.
Or it’s other people’s approval of what you say/do/think.
There is no grey zone.
It’s either inward or outward. Otherwise, you get cross-eyed.
Divine downloads, creation, messages, ideas come THROUGH you, for you and for the service of your world.
You’re either serving with those insights or having those likes serve...
Allow for it to fall apart.
It's not perfect, this journey.
There are moments worthy of puffy eyes, release, pain, struggle, triumph, challenge, championship, figuring it out, and all the above combined into the span of 90 seconds sometimes.
But it is in those moments of crashing, burning, finding, releasing, allowing that allows for all the pieces to come together.
Breathe.
Keep going.
You got this, puffy eyes or not.
You don’t have to put it out in the world - but perfect doesn’t sell and it PAYS to be human.
As Captain Marvel shows us, the benefit of being human is that we have forged an unshakable resilience to get back up again...
And again...
And again...
And again...
And every time we stand up, FOR ourselves, FOR something greater than use, FOR love, FOR more...
You strengthen the resilience within us, which, when forged, exercised in the throws of "too much," stress, overwhelm, pain, struggle, choice, choosing, and redeciding, recommitting to that vision.
You...
Just Show Up: How Social Media is Just Like the Gym
“Once I get my degree, then I’ll start my Youtube channel and posting more on social media.”
Ah, the great If/Then Syndrome, oh I was ready to tackle this one with my Revolutionary Empire Builder head-on.
“I’m curious, how have you been able to get your degree?”
“Well...I studied and practiced.”
“EXACTLY. YOU ACCOMPLISH THIS THROUGH DOING AND PRACTICING AND REPETITION. IT’S LIKE A MUSCLE. YOU HAVE TO STRENGTHEN IT.
Putting content out there on the interwebs is the same thing - it too is a muscle the needs to be strengthened, toned, worked on.
All social media profiles were flabby, small, and weak at one point too.
Those that have grown have grown because the leader chose to strengthen them.”
All the things you want to create in this world take disciplined work.
Notice I didn’t say HARD.
I said DISCIPLINED.
It is a practice, like going to the gym.
And when you’re at the gym, as you go, more and...
Hiding.
Ever have that one thing that keeps recurring in your life every time you feel like you’re leveling up?
For me, it’s around rejection. I have had to do a lot of healing around people leaving.
I’d reject parts of me - the silly, the weird, the dramatic, the ultra-girly, the ballerina - or parts that I thought would allow me to fit in, only to be rejected.
HINT: DEEP DOWN, HUMANS AREN’T STUPID. THEY KNOW WHEN YOU’RE FAKING IT. SOMETIMES THEY MAY NOT WANT TO KNOW THAT YOU’RE FAKING IT - BUT FAKING IT CAN BE FELT JUST AS DEEPLY AS FEELING IT.
I thought I was the weird kid growing up - that it was something I did.
But really, I was just mirroring my own rejection of myself in others.
Rejecting the shame of trying to fit in, when really, I’ve always known I was different.
Rejecting the guilt for not trusting that I was enough.
People are our mirrors.
When you try to hide from people, burying yourself in...
Oversaturated markets of Monets.
I know pretty much nothing about art. Other than a half a semester of art history in high school, where basically my only takeaway was understanding the difference between Baroque and Rococo because of that joke Cogsworth makes in Beauty and the Beast, I am pretty much lost in the art world.
I ONLY KNOW WHAT I LIKE...AND WHAT I LOVE.
I love impressionists - yeah, all the stuff you don’t need contacts for and requires a hint of imagination and feeling, that’s my jam.
There’s a vibe you get when you stand a foot away from one, where you feel the passion in the brushstrokes. You can sense the feeling in the globs of color, and swipes of the brush.
Back in the Impressionist Era, there were a lot of people doing blurry paintings with pretty colors.
Van Gogh.
Monet.
Manet.
Degas.
It got me wondering…
How many impressionists thought their market was oversaturated?
How many painters didn’t believe in their art because someone else...
Freedom ain't this.
“Why did you want to become an entrepreneur?” I asked.
“Freedom,” my client said to me.
I’ve been working with high-achieving entrepreneurs and creators for four years now, and there is one reason, bar none, why someone is crazy enough to venture into the world of entrepreneurship, to create a business and life on their terms.
FREEDOM.
Freedom financially.
Freedom to travel the world.
Freedom to have a business that supports that.
FREEDOM TO DO WHAT THEY WANT WHEN THEY WANT WITH WHO THEY WANT.
Then why is it that so many entrepreneurs box themselves into the very cages they looked to escape from?
They brag about barely sleeping.
THEY THROW DOWN HOW HARD THEY WORK, HOW LONG THEY WORK LIKE THE P*NI$ PRODUCTIVITY PARADIGM I TALK ABOUT ON THE PODCAST.
They wear busyness like it’s a badge of honor.
Is that freedom?
To work away 10 hours a day behind your computer, suffering at doing all the things, and yet barely making...