The Fabulous Secret of Success
I’ve got a secret for you.
Knowing this has allowed me to…
Recover completely from a 10 year battle with bulimia…
Write a feature film that got on Netflix…
MEET, KEEP, MARRY, AND MAKE BEAUTIFUL BABIES WITH THE LOVE OF MY LIFE...
Become the partner in a quarter-million-dollar company at 24…
Defy doctor’s beliefs and have my baby, my way…
START MY DREAM BUSINESS…
Bounce my body back to its pre-baby style with ease...
Become a Forbes contributor…
Close $39,000 private clients...
Live in freaking Australia…
Wanna know what it is?
Be freaking FABULOUS.
And OWN that shit.
There is a difference between being “fabulous” from a place of ego, thinking you’re entitled to your fabulousness…
And being FABULOUS from a place of SOUL by taking the courageous action to back that s*t up, if you know what I’m saying.
The defining differentiator is COURAGE.
You can walk around all day long...
What Iโm prioritizing this year.
I used to be HUGE on New Year Resolutions - like the biggest. Since I was 12, there are diary entries with lists, loads of lists...soooooo many lists...of all the things I would be, do, and have in the following 12 months.
PROBLEM IS, MANY OF THE THINGS WERE ALWAYS WHAT I THOUGHT I “SHOULD” DO TO BE ENOUGH.
You will never do enough to be enough if you don’t believe you’re enough as you are, right now.
After recovering from bulimia (and ultimately perfectionism), I stopped the incessant and inefficient list-making for a more suitable process - intuition.
I started trusting myself.
Now, instead of having a list of all the things I “should” want and “should” be and “should” have, priorities start to manifest.
In 2020 I went hard.
Sure, Robin Sharma created the 5 AM Club, but before becoming a parent, I’d been up at 5 AM every single day.
Since moving to Australia, I started to prioritize the flow work I was doing,...
Health in 2021
I’ve been talking with my clients A LOT about values. How values impact your emotions, productivity, who you hire, what you spend your time doing.
Just today in our Mindful Monarchs group coaching call, I worked with one of our Mindful Monarchs through an emotional struggle that she was having. Why was she feeling frustrated, sad, and #allthefeels?
Because her VALUES were being challenged by her team.
YOUR VALUES ARE PART OF YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS PROGRAMMING. THEY ARE ONE OF THE INTERNAL FILTERS YOU USE TO PROCESS INFORMATION AND EXPERIENCES THROUGH TO THEN CREATE A MEANING IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS MIND.
I remember when I was in my NLP coaching certification program back in 2016 and my coaches suggested to the class putting HEALTH as your top value.
For years, and I mean, for a LOT of years, FREEDOM was one of my highest values. Ever since I recovered from bulimia back when I was 22, health has always been up there in my top 5 values, but I’ve never put it...
A conversation with your Future Self
Ever have one of those days (or weeks #letsbehonest) where you have gotta take your own medicine. . Hi, yeah, right here.
For a hot second this week, I was getting down on myself for not doing all my "new year things..."
Having my vision board done...
Having completed @manifestationbabe's Epically Aligned workshop...
Having done my own 6-month journaling prompts for designing my next level of life, business, money, travel, relationships...
And it was in that moment, that my Highest and Best Self, you know, the QUEEN, intervened.
Lawd, help us all.
"Girl!" she said, with a smacky attitude, "You don't NEED any of that shit. Those are tools, guides, habits, things. But none of them is the thing."
When my Future Self shows up in leather and lace, to the meetings in my mind, I dare not intervene.
She continued, "The greatest guide and the ONLY guide you need is the CLARITY in your SOUL of what you truly desire. And you've had that in there since you were five. So stop pouting...
We did it!!
WE DID IT! We made it through 2020.
You survived.
You’re here.
You learned some things along the way.
And, wo-man-o-man, how those lessons will serve in this decade to come.
Take a deep breath and release.
2020 was challenging. And with challenging years, like with challenging workouts, your body needs space to rest and recuperate.
Give yourself the gentle touch of rest.
Grace your body, your mind, your soul with a break.
Here’s the thing…
2020 was a year of MASSIVE sympathetic activation.
In your body, you have two parts of your nervous system: the sympathetic and the parasympathetic.
Your sympathetic nervous system is your fight or flight.
And personally, this system has got a bit of a bad rap, because we hear all the horrors of chronic stress and anxiety, and feel like you’re on the fringe of things.
That just means your sympathetic is a wee bit over-stimulated.
You NEED fight or flight for short-term success.
To...
TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE NEW YEAR
Yeah, I know I normally write some fancy pants thing that sparks inspiration, wonder, merriment or challenges the soul, but today, tonight especially, I decided to bring some levity and light as we enter into 2021.
2020 has been a year of growth and expansion for all of us. This week alone has been a final stretch of growth for me personally in all ways.
If nothing else, 2020 has taught me to ENJOY your work, your life, your family, your friends, and not take everything so freaking seriously.
Because, in the end, it is the moments of both joy and courage that we seized and the moments of joy and courage that we missed that we remember the most.
SO IN AN ACT OF PURE COURAGE…
And downright silliness…
And just pure fun...
I GIVE YOU A POEM TO REIGN IN 2021.
Twas the night before new year, and all through the house.
Possibility was stirring, practically jumping off the couch!
The past year had been trying, challenging at best,
And all were looking forward to...
A Resource for Your Reign
I wish I could say this week has been what it normally is - one focused on vision, creation, expansion, and preparation for the next evolution in a new year. I guess you could say that it has, in its own way, an emotional unfolding of values, release, cutting energetic cords, and practicing the utmost presence.
My dad was hospitalized the day after Christmas with COVID, put into a medically induced coma, on a ventilator, and due to COVID restrictions, my mom isn’t even allowed by his side. We didn’t know if he was going to live or die, though day by day, it’s looking incrementally better.
Needless to say, it’s been a whirlwind, trying, challenging, and all the things. I shared my pretty raw and real take on it in our Crown Yourself community and on my IG. I haven’t held back, I’ve shown up. Struggled. Openly, in the hopes that for all the recovering perfectionists who put on a face of strength and who are used to being the...
โKim changed my life,โ she said.
Last year, I was catching up with one of my former clients, Sylvia over brunch. Yes, mimosas and all. (Ah, I remember those. #Notforanother6Months )
She was recounting all the amazing things that happened since we worked together. And I was eating it up!
She’d landed her dream job.
She’d got a $12,000 raise.
She was now being considered for another leadership role.
She’d met someone...you know...special.
There were sooooo many cheers coming from our table as I celebrated each and every one of her enormous victories. I was so freaking proud of all she had overcome, created, and manifested into her reality.
All from just one month intensive with me.
I feel so honored to do this work. To be able to tap people into their possibilities, beyond what even they may believe.
Then, she said something that took my breath away.
At that time, I had a prospective client, who was on the fence about working with me. I put her in touch with Syl to share a bit about her...
Youโre not broken (you never were.)
In case you needed to hear this today…
You are NOT broken.
This was one of the most profound, transformational breakthroughs I had. And when it sunk into my soul back in 2016, it stuck...for good.
It is the BELIEF that you are broken, or even could be broken that is 100% plagiarized.
Just because you’re growing.
Just because you’re choosing to create a new reality doesn’t mean that the old one was broken.
Ever.
You simply outgrew it.
Like a pair of clothes. It doesn’t mean that they were broken or had holes in them.
They just don’t fit anymore.
And that’s okay.
Just like your beliefs - the ones you are consciously and currently creating NOW.
Those OLD beliefs don’t fit the new version of you that you are creating.
Your energy, your vibe, your persona, your sovereignty expanded into a new dimension.
Thank those beliefs (those old clothes) for serving you, for being with you thus far.
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Building Sustainable Subconscious Programming
When I first started Crown Yourself, I didn’t start out coaching entrepreneurs to increase their profits by 150% in the next 12 months...that came over time.
Back in 2016, I just wanted to help people.
Still do.
And, like Liam Neeson, I had a certain set of skills that could do it - NLP, Time Line Therapy, hypnosis, and Pilates parasympathetic breathing.
I had ONE offer back then:
The Gold Package.
It is like a wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am of 8 hours that my clients said literally transformed their lives.
CHECK OUT MY CLIENT, BONNIE’S EXPERIENCE OF IT ON THE PRINCESS AND THE B PODCAST.
But, in 2018 after becoming a Certified High-Performance Coach™ I integrated my other skillsets into new, fresh shiny packages that allowed for me to work longer with the clients that I so adore.
That’s the beauty of owning your own business - you can evolve.
Change.
Pivot.
Transcend.
Transform.
That’s also the beauty of being human.
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